My primary reason for taking this workshop was to work through long term issues related to my sex life. Lack of confidence, lack of understanding of my own wants and desires, all of that combining into overthinking and performance issues. 

In hindsight, before this workshop I truly had no awareness of touch or consent beyond the most basic definition. Everything was based on inferences, assumptions, and caution to avoid crossing invisible lines. 

Throughout the first full day I experienced multiple milestones and emotional unlocks. The first time I put focus solely into my own sensation. The first time I touched another person with 100% confidence that what I was doing was ok for them. The first time the idea that touching or allowing touch could be a gift. It all led to a completely transformative viewpoint on my own sensations (I can have them!), desires (I can find them!) and experiences (I can enjoy them!). 

Overall, now I feel a sense of optimism about my sensual life that I had assumed for years wouldn't be possible. In the day since the workshop I feel myself torn between joy at these new tools and understandings, and frustration that I can't keep practicing them immediately. I am looking forward to engaging with people physically in a way I haven't in a long, long time. 

The group experience made a profound difference. If instead of fourteen hours with this group I had fourteen hours of 1:1 coaching I wouldn't have made it even halfway as far along. The ability to experience with others made everything real in a way that working with a trained professional wouldn't have. I could trust what I was feeling because I heard from others feeling it too. The experiences, insights and questions they all so bravely offered triggered many learnings that I would not have been able to unlock alone. 

The group dynamic helped the most in the touch experiences. Being able to both give and receive the gift of touch with a variety of people of all genders really showed the power of the Wheel of Consent methodology. It gave a chance to experience with a stranger in a way that demonstrated safety, integrity and joy. 

The class brilliantly blends experiential learning with intellectual descriptions of what happened. The combination of the two means every lesson is both heard and felt to satisfy all types of learners. 

River teaches with a spectacularly open heart. Her willingness to share from her own experience and create space for participants to do the same enabled real evolution. Her mix of experiential guiding, intellectual understanding, and loving acceptance delivered the ideal conditions for learning. 

I had a moment of realization that many other people face the same challenges. Struggling with intimacy and desire presents an incredibly lonely journey so having the experience normalized both at a societal level and by the group felt profound. 

The big benefits of this workshop are to walk away with the vocabulary, tools and optimism to work through further unlocking at whatever pace, and with whomever, that you prefer. 

The practices made it real. To actually experience sensation with another person, in a totally safe environment, for even just a few minutes, proved that change is possible in a way no lecture, reading or video could. 

I would recommend the workshop because it provides a framework that allows engaging sensually with another at the deepest level while still being true to yourself and maintaining your integrity.

Things you did not think would be possible in human relationships will come into view through these three days. 

A challenge for me was that I had to accept how many mental blockers I was carrying. I had to forgive myself for having never truly looked inside myself. I had to forgive myself for wasted decades of pain and instead focus on what the Wheel of Consent could unlock. 

My biggest challenge was touching and being touched by other men. As a straight man I carry many of societies hangups about that. The container of the workshop created a space, and a method, to set those fears aside and connect in a way that allowed me to grow and actually confirm my understanding of my limits in an empowering way. 

To future participants I say: Let yourself have the experience. Don't spend your time thinking about what you are doing, what you may do, or what it means, just let River's voice guide you to unlock the self knowledge you've been missing. 

I don't think I can yet put into words how much this course helped me. The best way I can put things so far is that it gave me hope. It showed me that my life can be different and gave me tools to begin that journey. 

There was so much here I'm still processing it. I feel like depending on the personal situation of someone I was speaking to about the course I would highlight different things. 

I'm not sure where it fits but the whole weekend almost felt like I was in another dimension. During the sessions my sense of time was way off, I felt deeply at peace, and I could happily have kept going for days. 

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to find another tool to add to my toolkit.

Before this workshop began, I used to get fuzzy once I lost sight of my desire.

Now, towards the end of this workshop I feel empowered to speak my desire. I don't need to caretake.

Our group had a sweet energy as we came together in our experiences. For me, it was good to not know anyone initially or have an attraction to anyone in the group regardless of orientation and to work with all genders. I was able to have my journey without the cloudiness I feel from sexual or erotic desire. I love those feelings too. I just think it helped me to not have to deal with those emotions in this instance.

This course is taught with subtlety and nuance which allows you to really search inside yourself for your true desire.  River is an excellent guide for this journey. She remained attuned to the group and followed where the energy of the group led her. This allowed for a custom experience for all.

I had a personal experience of an “aha” moment when I realized how many times I was giving mixed signals with my straight friends. Now I will simply focus on my desire and make a request for my pleasure. If someone has a request for me, then I will go on my journey and find my limits. 

One of the big benefits of this workshop is the Wheel itself. Language to help me explain all of these inner thoughts.

The real-life practices in the workshop helped me to feel the nuance and practice going on my journey.

I believe this course is a prerequisite for life and everyone should have this skill. I don't know if it fits under the umbrella of emotional intelligence or some other intelligence but it should be defined in that way in my opinion.

There were many tears shed in this workshop but it was a good cry. The word catharsis comes to mind.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to get to know more about Wheel of Consent before the Like a Pro workshop, kind of a warmup.

Before this workshop began I would say I was a bit reserved with strangers. About mid-way into the workshop, magic happened.

If anyone wants to seed and grow new neural pathways for healing and success, try this workshop out.

It was an eye opening experience to be part of our group with wide emotional challenges and traumatic experiences. Slowly by the end, with River's ability to hold the safe space, every one ended up opening their tender part to see what they were missing all along.

As a teacher, River was amazing, gifted, experienced, a strong and passionate healer on a mission.  I appreciated the way River was not afraid to directly address our mind tricks and old stories.

I learned life inspiring experiences. And I recognize this is an on going practice. This course strengthened my resolve and I feel empowered to inspire and heal people in need. 

I had a great time all along. To future participants, I would say let things flow and do not overthink the situation. Trust River, she will get you flowing.

I took this workshop because I wanted clarity on how to determine what I desire and how to ask for it, as well as manage my own boundaries and know when I need to say no.  

Before this workshop began I used to let the other party lead and I would follow, keeping a sharp eye out for my boundaries. I was hyper-focused on how far was too far and how far I wouldn't go and when I would need to say "stop." I hadn't considered that it was valid for me to have specific desires and to ask for them to be fulfilled.   

Learning to say, "I want" was challenging. 

Now, a lot of possibility is showing up for how relationships could be. This applies to all areas of my life. I'm looking forward to using these concepts with my friends to create even more satisfying friendships.  

I always seem to learn more in a group setting. It was difficult to connect with some of the other students, but I appreciated hearing the range of experiences they were having, and it was interesting to see how almost all of them had blocks to using the Wheel as it was intended. It was a good mirror to show me where I was blocked and stuck myself.

The group dynamic helps because I like to express myself. Having other people witness my illuminations is very healing to me. Hearing others' perspectives is also valuable, because I can often see others' blind spots and then investigate where I might have a similar blind spot.   

River is a dynamic, compassionate, clear teacher. She will honor me at the same time that she challenges me to choose an upgraded way of interacting with others. She celebrates the smallest of shifts. I respect, admire, and love her style of teaching and her way of being.      

Shifting out of normal and into extraordinary in just one relationship in my life would be worth it, and the fact is that I can try these tools in every relationship of my life, and use them even in short interactions, say with my massage therapist.     

Being able to feel kinesthetically the difference between the 4 modes of touch solidified the teaching.  

Learning to discover and speak my desires, own them, and interact with others' desires is something not taught to me in schools or by my parents. This workshop filled a huge void, and I believe I can upgrade my life with this concept. 

I had to give up on a lot of myths that weren't working for me, like, "If you love me, you'll just magically know what I want." and that talking about consent beforehand couldn't possibly be fun and it will kill the mood. I felt relief, since these beliefs hadn't been working for me anyway. They had simply been prompting me to wonder what was wrong with ME that they weren't working for me. But what if they're lies and illusions and they don't work for anyone....?    

Giving and receiving to people I didn't know or care about was difficult. It felt like a waste of energy, since I didn't see this partnering as turning into anything significant, for the most part. I kept going because I figured it was good to practice with someone where the stakes are low, instead of practicing with someone where it feels the stakes are impossibly high (which means I'm much less likely to express myself authentically and honor my boundaries).  

Getting clear on the difference between the person doing the action and who it's for was illuminating. Practicing using the specific language helped anchor this concept in my body.  

To future participants I say: Listen to your body to hear what it wants. Ask for more than what you think is "acceptable" if that's what truly sounds wonderful to you. Practice speaking your heart's desire. Get in the habit of honoring your desires.  

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to improve communications in my relationship with my partner.

Before this workshop, in my head, I always thought of my touch experiences as me giving good feelings to others. The concept of taking was foreign to me.

Halfway through the course, after being called out for not taking, I was again given the opportunity to take via touch. Once I did it, it was a real breakthrough for me. I learned both that I had taken in the past, I had just labeled it as a gift and that I get pleasure from getting others to examine and move their limits. I do this at work, when I push others to change the way they work and improve their practices. At home I push my partner in little ways, over the years, to expand our sexual activities to new directions. I do this by pushing limits.

For me, that I was able to find out something real that I had not known about myself, what gives me pleasure at home and at work. It was a real AhHa moment for me.

Even though the touch experienced in this case was non-sexual, just the action of touching an arm of strangers was uncomfortable at first. The first person I was paired with shed tears and we were just touching hands and wrists. Then later in class, being asked to “take” touch for my own pleasure with these people who in any other circumstances I would want to give comfort or pleasure. Change is never easy and sometimes you have to be uncomfortable in order to get to the other side.

River is a great teacher. The smile lowers your inhibition’s, her energy overcame the tendency to withdraw in the uncomfortableness of the group environment. She was always present during the exercise and observed when you were “cheating” or not doing the exercise correctly. River was really well prepared and organized. No time was wasted in our 14 hrs of class. The real clue that the class dynamic was working was that during our lunch break, everyone decided to stay together and eat at the same table.

My aha was that I get pleasure from taking. It's not that I have not been a taker all my life, it is just that I misidentified my taking as serving and that robbed me of pleasure.

The real life practices were key. I don’t think that watching the videos would get you into the mental space needed to really “get” what these new concepts really mean. Sometimes I think you have to be uncomfortable for a moment, in order for your mind to reorder its synapses and cause real meaningful change.

I have already recommended this workshop to my young chiropractor. As sort of a mentor to him, I told him that these kinds of lessons of the heart should be learned early or else life goes by and you regret time wasted.

The toughest moment for me it was that brief moment just before I sat down with a new practice partner.

To future participants I say: relax, any dread you may be feeling will dissipate quickly once the practices begin.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to work through long term issues related to my sex life. Lack of confidence, lack of understanding of my own wants and desires, all of that combining into overthinking and performance issues. 

In hindsight, before this workshop I truly had no awareness of touch or consent beyond the most basic definition. Everything was based on inferences, assumptions, and caution to avoid crossing invisible lines. 

Throughout the first full day I experienced multiple milestones and emotional unlocks. The first time I put focus solely into my own sensation. The first time I touched another person with 100% confidence that what I was doing was ok for them. The first time the idea that touching or allowing touch could be a gift. It all led to a completely transformative viewpoint on my own sensations (I can have them!), desires (I can find them!) and experiences (I can enjoy them!). 

Overall, now I feel a sense of optimism about my sensual life that I had assumed for years wouldn't be possible. In the day since the workshop I feel myself torn between joy at these new tools and understandings, and frustration that I can't keep practicing them immediately. I am looking forward to engaging with people physically in a way I haven't in a long, long time. 

The group experience made a profound difference. If instead of fourteen hours with this group I had fourteen hours of 1:1 coaching I wouldn't have made it even halfway as far along. The ability to experience with others made everything real in a way that working with a trained professional wouldn't have. I could trust what I was feeling because I heard from others feeling it too. The experiences, insights and questions they all so bravely offered triggered many learnings that I would not have been able to unlock alone. 

The group dynamic helped the most in the touch experiences. Being able to both give and receive the gift of touch with a variety of people of all genders really showed the power of the Wheel of Consent methodology. It gave a chance to experience with a stranger in a way that demonstrated safety, integrity and joy. 

The class brilliantly blends experiential learning with intellectual descriptions of what happened. The combination of the two means every lesson is both heard and felt to satisfy all types of learners. 

River teaches with a spectacularly open heart. Her willingness to share from her own experience and create space for participants to do the same enabled real evolution. Her mix of experiential guiding, intellectual understanding, and loving acceptance delivered the ideal conditions for learning. 

I had a moment of realization that many other people face the same challenges. Struggling with intimacy and desire presents an incredibly lonely journey so having the experience normalized both at a societal level and by the group felt profound. 

The big benefits of this workshop are to walk away with the vocabulary, tools and optimism to work through further unlocking at whatever pace, and with whomever, that you prefer. 

The practices made it real. To actually experience sensation with another person, in a totally safe environment, for even just a few minutes, proved that change is possible in a way no lecture, reading or video could. 

I would recommend the workshop because it provides a framework that allows engaging sensually with another at the deepest level while still being true to yourself and maintaining your integrity.

Things you did not think would be possible in human relationships will come into view through these three days. 

A challenge for me was that I had to accept how many mental blockers I was carrying. I had to forgive myself for having never truly looked inside myself. I had to forgive myself for wasted decades of pain and instead focus on what the Wheel of Consent could unlock. 

My biggest challenge was touching and being touched by other men. As a straight man I carry many of societies hangups about that. The container of the workshop created a space, and a method, to set those fears aside and connect in a way that allowed me to grow and actually confirm my understanding of my limits in an empowering way. 

To future participants I say: Let yourself have the experience. Don't spend your time thinking about what you are doing, what you may do, or what it means, just let River's voice guide you to unlock the self knowledge you've been missing. 

I don't think I can yet put into words how much this course helped me. The best way I can put things so far is that it gave me hope. It showed me that my life can be different and gave me tools to begin that journey. 

There was so much here I'm still processing it. I feel like depending on the personal situation of someone I was speaking to about the course I would highlight different things. 

I'm not sure where it fits but the whole weekend almost felt like I was in another dimension. During the sessions my sense of time was way off, I felt deeply at peace, and I could happily have kept going for days. 

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to find another tool to add to my toolkit.

Before this workshop began, I used to get fuzzy once I lost sight of my desire.

Now, towards the end of this workshop I feel empowered to speak my desire. I don't need to caretake.

Our group had a sweet energy as we came together in our experiences. For me, it was good to not know anyone initially or have an attraction to anyone in the group regardless of orientation and to work with all genders. I was able to have my journey without the cloudiness I feel from sexual or erotic desire. I love those feelings too. I just think it helped me to not have to deal with those emotions in this instance.

This course is taught with subtlety and nuance which allows you to really search inside yourself for your true desire.  River is an excellent guide for this journey. She remained attuned to the group and followed where the energy of the group led her. This allowed for a custom experience for all.

I had a personal experience of an “aha” moment when I realized how many times I was giving mixed signals with my straight friends. Now I will simply focus on my desire and make a request for my pleasure. If someone has a request for me, then I will go on my journey and find my limits. 

One of the big benefits of this workshop is the Wheel itself. Language to help me explain all of these inner thoughts.

The real-life practices in the workshop helped me to feel the nuance and practice going on my journey.

I believe this course is a prerequisite for life and everyone should have this skill. I don't know if it fits under the umbrella of emotional intelligence or some other intelligence but it should be defined in that way in my opinion.

There were many tears shed in this workshop but it was a good cry. The word catharsis comes to mind.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to get to know more about Wheel of Consent before the Like a Pro workshop, kind of a warmup.

Before this workshop began I would say I was a bit reserved with strangers. About mid-way into the workshop, magic happened.

If anyone wants to seed and grow new neural pathways for healing and success, try this workshop out.

It was an eye opening experience to be part of our group with wide emotional challenges and traumatic experiences. Slowly by the end, with River's ability to hold the safe space, every one ended up opening their tender part to see what they were missing all along.

As a teacher, River was amazing, gifted, experienced, a strong and passionate healer on a mission.  I appreciated the way River was not afraid to directly address our mind tricks and old stories.

I learned life inspiring experiences. And I recognize this is an on going practice. This course strengthened my resolve and I feel empowered to inspire and heal people in need. 

I had a great time all along. To future participants, I would say let things flow and do not overthink the situation. Trust River, she will get you flowing.

I took this workshop because I wanted clarity on how to determine what I desire and how to ask for it, as well as manage my own boundaries and know when I need to say no.  

Before this workshop began I used to let the other party lead and I would follow, keeping a sharp eye out for my boundaries. I was hyper-focused on how far was too far and how far I wouldn't go and when I would need to say "stop." I hadn't considered that it was valid for me to have specific desires and to ask for them to be fulfilled.   

Learning to say, "I want" was challenging. 

Now, a lot of possibility is showing up for how relationships could be. This applies to all areas of my life. I'm looking forward to using these concepts with my friends to create even more satisfying friendships.  

I always seem to learn more in a group setting. It was difficult to connect with some of the other students, but I appreciated hearing the range of experiences they were having, and it was interesting to see how almost all of them had blocks to using the Wheel as it was intended. It was a good mirror to show me where I was blocked and stuck myself.

The group dynamic helps because I like to express myself. Having other people witness my illuminations is very healing to me. Hearing others' perspectives is also valuable, because I can often see others' blind spots and then investigate where I might have a similar blind spot.   

River is a dynamic, compassionate, clear teacher. She will honor me at the same time that she challenges me to choose an upgraded way of interacting with others. She celebrates the smallest of shifts. I respect, admire, and love her style of teaching and her way of being.      

Shifting out of normal and into extraordinary in just one relationship in my life would be worth it, and the fact is that I can try these tools in every relationship of my life, and use them even in short interactions, say with my massage therapist.     

Being able to feel kinesthetically the difference between the 4 modes of touch solidified the teaching.  

Learning to discover and speak my desires, own them, and interact with others' desires is something not taught to me in schools or by my parents. This workshop filled a huge void, and I believe I can upgrade my life with this concept. 

I had to give up on a lot of myths that weren't working for me, like, "If you love me, you'll just magically know what I want." and that talking about consent beforehand couldn't possibly be fun and it will kill the mood. I felt relief, since these beliefs hadn't been working for me anyway. They had simply been prompting me to wonder what was wrong with ME that they weren't working for me. But what if they're lies and illusions and they don't work for anyone....?    

Giving and receiving to people I didn't know or care about was difficult. It felt like a waste of energy, since I didn't see this partnering as turning into anything significant, for the most part. I kept going because I figured it was good to practice with someone where the stakes are low, instead of practicing with someone where it feels the stakes are impossibly high (which means I'm much less likely to express myself authentically and honor my boundaries).  

Getting clear on the difference between the person doing the action and who it's for was illuminating. Practicing using the specific language helped anchor this concept in my body.  

To future participants I say: Listen to your body to hear what it wants. Ask for more than what you think is "acceptable" if that's what truly sounds wonderful to you. Practice speaking your heart's desire. Get in the habit of honoring your desires.  

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to improve communications in my relationship with my partner.

Before this workshop, in my head, I always thought of my touch experiences as me giving good feelings to others. The concept of taking was foreign to me.

Halfway through the course, after being called out for not taking, I was again given the opportunity to take via touch. Once I did it, it was a real breakthrough for me. I learned both that I had taken in the past, I had just labeled it as a gift and that I get pleasure from getting others to examine and move their limits. I do this at work, when I push others to change the way they work and improve their practices. At home I push my partner in little ways, over the years, to expand our sexual activities to new directions. I do this by pushing limits.

For me, that I was able to find out something real that I had not known about myself, what gives me pleasure at home and at work. It was a real AhHa moment for me.

Even though the touch experienced in this case was non-sexual, just the action of touching an arm of strangers was uncomfortable at first. The first person I was paired with shed tears and we were just touching hands and wrists. Then later in class, being asked to “take” touch for my own pleasure with these people who in any other circumstances I would want to give comfort or pleasure. Change is never easy and sometimes you have to be uncomfortable in order to get to the other side.

River is a great teacher. The smile lowers your inhibition’s, her energy overcame the tendency to withdraw in the uncomfortableness of the group environment. She was always present during the exercise and observed when you were “cheating” or not doing the exercise correctly. River was really well prepared and organized. No time was wasted in our 14 hrs of class. The real clue that the class dynamic was working was that during our lunch break, everyone decided to stay together and eat at the same table.

My aha was that I get pleasure from taking. It's not that I have not been a taker all my life, it is just that I misidentified my taking as serving and that robbed me of pleasure.

The real life practices were key. I don’t think that watching the videos would get you into the mental space needed to really “get” what these new concepts really mean. Sometimes I think you have to be uncomfortable for a moment, in order for your mind to reorder its synapses and cause real meaningful change.

I have already recommended this workshop to my young chiropractor. As sort of a mentor to him, I told him that these kinds of lessons of the heart should be learned early or else life goes by and you regret time wasted.

The toughest moment for me it was that brief moment just before I sat down with a new practice partner.

To future participants I say: relax, any dread you may be feeling will dissipate quickly once the practices begin.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to test myself to see how I would react in a semi-sexual situation with an unknown group.

Before the workshop, my condition has been described as Touch Negative and Sexless. My approach to touch and choice has been limited to a formal dance floor where I ask a partner to dance. Or a career situation, where the touching is professional, handshakes and hugs only if the other person asks first.

About mid-way into the workshop, I gave up trying to fit in and started looking after myself more. What was useful was to see the perspectives of the participants start to change. Even those who had the workshop before or who knew the Wheel were there to try to break a restriction or a limit in their lives.

The group dynamic helped because in human beings we do have a desire for touch, pleasure, company, praise, gratitude, feeling successful, and just feeling good. All of these are difficult to do when we are alone. And when working in the groups, each can assist the other at some level, whether it is simply comfort or listening or giving attention.

Mostly the teaching method was like circuit assembly or building a model, where each component is built, and then the next piece added. In this case, the next verbal cue, consent, limits, and focus on self.

The most telling moment was when I was trying to say "I want" and I could not. I am quite good with words, and can write and talk for a mile, but saying "I want" was very difficult.

A big benefit of the workshop is setting up a group of people willing to talk and try the Wheel. The value I found in the workshop is that everyone came with the intention of learning something about setting boundaries and ending stereotypes.

This course personally helped me on several things. First, it was a test to see how I could react in such a situation. I did this workshop without research, and without heavy preparation. Trust. Trust. Trust it will be fine. Second, this was a strange situation that was going to include touch. Talking is easy. Working is easy. Touching is very hard.

At the end of this workshop I feel successful.

Maybe I am not as untouchable as I sometimes feel.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to heal from sexual trauma and find a way to have a better relationship with sex.

Before this workshop, I used to assume what the other person needs and give that to them in hopes of having needs my met.

About midway into the workshop I was feeling so happy that I was getting my touch needs met that all my fear of being unsafe in the world fell away.

Now I feel Empowered!

It’s incredible to get in touch with what makes me happy.  I am honoring that my body desperately needed a break from sex after all the trauma I put myself through for the past couple decades.  I finally realized I don’t really need a man as much as I thought I did—I would like to spend time getting to know myself more and discover what brings me pleasure.

By the end of the workshop I met a typical guy I usually fall for who would have been completely toxic for me, but I peacefully walked away from him and said yes to myself instead.  I was calling myself a love addict at the beginning of the workshop, and then that little miracle happened, so that was pretty huge for me.

The group dynamic helped me understand the content more and I felt so close to everyone especially after doing something so personal with almost everyone—touching and being touched.

This is a course about how to ask to get your needs met and how to get clear about the needs and intentions of people around you.  It’s for singles, couples, people enduring trauma, people who don’t know what they want, or who do but don’t know how to ask for it, it’s for everyone who wants to enjoy life more.  

The big benefits of this workshop are connectedness to others, increased feelings of pleasure, getting in touch with your pleasure, knowing and setting boundaries, knowing yourself more, improved success in all areas of life, self esteem boosting, increased desire, self acceptance and more.

The real life practices helped me know what I want, know how to ask for what I want, and to practice discernment and open heartedness with others.

River is compassionate, passionate and loving in her teaching.  She takes the time to coach everyone in the room with sensitivity towards everyone’s individual path.

I would recommend this class because everyone’s happiness matters.

I had to, and still am, working toward asking a man for how I want to be touched. It’s still hard but I will continue to work at it.

The most difficult part for me was not wanting to be open with the group after a stranger really hurt my feelings the day before.  I think my desire for connection overrode my feelings of hurt.

To future participants, I would say have an open mind to what is being offered and listen to what you want.  Also advocate for your comfort and needs—maybe it will get you in the mood to do that even after the workshop is over.

This course helped me find that hidden child just bursting with so much sunshine who wants nothing more than to share laughter and fun with the world, and that’s who I become when my needs are being met.  Amazing!

I hope to take this class again with River.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to work through long term issues related to my sex life. Lack of confidence, lack of understanding of my own wants and desires, all of that combining into overthinking and performance issues. 

In hindsight, before this workshop I truly had no awareness of touch or consent beyond the most basic definition. Everything was based on inferences, assumptions, and caution to avoid crossing invisible lines. 

Throughout the first full day I experienced multiple milestones and emotional unlocks. The first time I put focus solely into my own sensation. The first time I touched another person with 100% confidence that what I was doing was ok for them. The first time the idea that touching or allowing touch could be a gift. It all led to a completely transformative viewpoint on my own sensations (I can have them!), desires (I can find them!) and experiences (I can enjoy them!). 

Overall, now I feel a sense of optimism about my sensual life that I had assumed for years wouldn't be possible. In the day since the workshop I feel myself torn between joy at these new tools and understandings, and frustration that I can't keep practicing them immediately. I am looking forward to engaging with people physically in a way I haven't in a long, long time. 

The group experience made a profound difference. If instead of fourteen hours with this group I had fourteen hours of 1:1 coaching I wouldn't have made it even halfway as far along. The ability to experience with others made everything real in a way that working with a trained professional wouldn't have. I could trust what I was feeling because I heard from others feeling it too. The experiences, insights and questions they all so bravely offered triggered many learnings that I would not have been able to unlock alone. 

The group dynamic helped the most in the touch experiences. Being able to both give and receive the gift of touch with a variety of people of all genders really showed the power of the Wheel of Consent methodology. It gave a chance to experience with a stranger in a way that demonstrated safety, integrity and joy. 

The class brilliantly blends experiential learning with intellectual descriptions of what happened. The combination of the two means every lesson is both heard and felt to satisfy all types of learners. 

River teaches with a spectacularly open heart. Her willingness to share from her own experience and create space for participants to do the same enabled real evolution. Her mix of experiential guiding, intellectual understanding, and loving acceptance delivered the ideal conditions for learning. 

I had a moment of realization that many other people face the same challenges. Struggling with intimacy and desire presents an incredibly lonely journey so having the experience normalized both at a societal level and by the group felt profound. 

The big benefits of this workshop are to walk away with the vocabulary, tools and optimism to work through further unlocking at whatever pace, and with whomever, that you prefer. 

The practices made it real. To actually experience sensation with another person, in a totally safe environment, for even just a few minutes, proved that change is possible in a way no lecture, reading or video could. 

I would recommend the workshop because it provides a framework that allows engaging sensually with another at the deepest level while still being true to yourself and maintaining your integrity.

Things you did not think would be possible in human relationships will come into view through these three days. 

A challenge for me was that I had to accept how many mental blockers I was carrying. I had to forgive myself for having never truly looked inside myself. I had to forgive myself for wasted decades of pain and instead focus on what the Wheel of Consent could unlock. 

My biggest challenge was touching and being touched by other men. As a straight man I carry many of societies hangups about that. The container of the workshop created a space, and a method, to set those fears aside and connect in a way that allowed me to grow and actually confirm my understanding of my limits in an empowering way. 

To future participants I say: Let yourself have the experience. Don't spend your time thinking about what you are doing, what you may do, or what it means, just let River's voice guide you to unlock the self knowledge you've been missing. 

I don't think I can yet put into words how much this course helped me. The best way I can put things so far is that it gave me hope. It showed me that my life can be different and gave me tools to begin that journey. 

There was so much here I'm still processing it. I feel like depending on the personal situation of someone I was speaking to about the course I would highlight different things. 

I'm not sure where it fits but the whole weekend almost felt like I was in another dimension. During the sessions my sense of time was way off, I felt deeply at peace, and I could happily have kept going for days. 

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to find another tool to add to my toolkit.

Before this workshop began, I used to get fuzzy once I lost sight of my desire.

Now, towards the end of this workshop I feel empowered to speak my desire. I don't need to caretake.

Our group had a sweet energy as we came together in our experiences. For me, it was good to not know anyone initially or have an attraction to anyone in the group regardless of orientation and to work with all genders. I was able to have my journey without the cloudiness I feel from sexual or erotic desire. I love those feelings too. I just think it helped me to not have to deal with those emotions in this instance.

This course is taught with subtlety and nuance which allows you to really search inside yourself for your true desire.  River is an excellent guide for this journey. She remained attuned to the group and followed where the energy of the group led her. This allowed for a custom experience for all.

I had a personal experience of an “aha” moment when I realized how many times I was giving mixed signals with my straight friends. Now I will simply focus on my desire and make a request for my pleasure. If someone has a request for me, then I will go on my journey and find my limits. 

One of the big benefits of this workshop is the Wheel itself. Language to help me explain all of these inner thoughts.

The real-life practices in the workshop helped me to feel the nuance and practice going on my journey.

I believe this course is a prerequisite for life and everyone should have this skill. I don't know if it fits under the umbrella of emotional intelligence or some other intelligence but it should be defined in that way in my opinion.

There were many tears shed in this workshop but it was a good cry. The word catharsis comes to mind.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to get to know more about Wheel of Consent before the Like a Pro workshop, kind of a warmup.

Before this workshop began I would say I was a bit reserved with strangers. About mid-way into the workshop, magic happened.

If anyone wants to seed and grow new neural pathways for healing and success, try this workshop out.

It was an eye opening experience to be part of our group with wide emotional challenges and traumatic experiences. Slowly by the end, with River's ability to hold the safe space, every one ended up opening their tender part to see what they were missing all along.

As a teacher, River was amazing, gifted, experienced, a strong and passionate healer on a mission.  I appreciated the way River was not afraid to directly address our mind tricks and old stories.

I learned life inspiring experiences. And I recognize this is an on going practice. This course strengthened my resolve and I feel empowered to inspire and heal people in need. 

I had a great time all along. To future participants, I would say let things flow and do not overthink the situation. Trust River, she will get you flowing.

I took this workshop because I wanted clarity on how to determine what I desire and how to ask for it, as well as manage my own boundaries and know when I need to say no.  

Before this workshop began I used to let the other party lead and I would follow, keeping a sharp eye out for my boundaries. I was hyper-focused on how far was too far and how far I wouldn't go and when I would need to say "stop." I hadn't considered that it was valid for me to have specific desires and to ask for them to be fulfilled.   

Learning to say, "I want" was challenging. 

Now, a lot of possibility is showing up for how relationships could be. This applies to all areas of my life. I'm looking forward to using these concepts with my friends to create even more satisfying friendships.  

I always seem to learn more in a group setting. It was difficult to connect with some of the other students, but I appreciated hearing the range of experiences they were having, and it was interesting to see how almost all of them had blocks to using the Wheel as it was intended. It was a good mirror to show me where I was blocked and stuck myself.

The group dynamic helps because I like to express myself. Having other people witness my illuminations is very healing to me. Hearing others' perspectives is also valuable, because I can often see others' blind spots and then investigate where I might have a similar blind spot.   

River is a dynamic, compassionate, clear teacher. She will honor me at the same time that she challenges me to choose an upgraded way of interacting with others. She celebrates the smallest of shifts. I respect, admire, and love her style of teaching and her way of being.      

Shifting out of normal and into extraordinary in just one relationship in my life would be worth it, and the fact is that I can try these tools in every relationship of my life, and use them even in short interactions, say with my massage therapist.     

Being able to feel kinesthetically the difference between the 4 modes of touch solidified the teaching.  

Learning to discover and speak my desires, own them, and interact with others' desires is something not taught to me in schools or by my parents. This workshop filled a huge void, and I believe I can upgrade my life with this concept. 

I had to give up on a lot of myths that weren't working for me, like, "If you love me, you'll just magically know what I want." and that talking about consent beforehand couldn't possibly be fun and it will kill the mood. I felt relief, since these beliefs hadn't been working for me anyway. They had simply been prompting me to wonder what was wrong with ME that they weren't working for me. But what if they're lies and illusions and they don't work for anyone....?    

Giving and receiving to people I didn't know or care about was difficult. It felt like a waste of energy, since I didn't see this partnering as turning into anything significant, for the most part. I kept going because I figured it was good to practice with someone where the stakes are low, instead of practicing with someone where it feels the stakes are impossibly high (which means I'm much less likely to express myself authentically and honor my boundaries).  

Getting clear on the difference between the person doing the action and who it's for was illuminating. Practicing using the specific language helped anchor this concept in my body.  

To future participants I say: Listen to your body to hear what it wants. Ask for more than what you think is "acceptable" if that's what truly sounds wonderful to you. Practice speaking your heart's desire. Get in the habit of honoring your desires.  

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to improve communications in my relationship with my partner.

Before this workshop, in my head, I always thought of my touch experiences as me giving good feelings to others. The concept of taking was foreign to me.

Halfway through the course, after being called out for not taking, I was again given the opportunity to take via touch. Once I did it, it was a real breakthrough for me. I learned both that I had taken in the past, I had just labeled it as a gift and that I get pleasure from getting others to examine and move their limits. I do this at work, when I push others to change the way they work and improve their practices. At home I push my partner in little ways, over the years, to expand our sexual activities to new directions. I do this by pushing limits.

For me, that I was able to find out something real that I had not known about myself, what gives me pleasure at home and at work. It was a real AhHa moment for me.

Even though the touch experienced in this case was non-sexual, just the action of touching an arm of strangers was uncomfortable at first. The first person I was paired with shed tears and we were just touching hands and wrists. Then later in class, being asked to “take” touch for my own pleasure with these people who in any other circumstances I would want to give comfort or pleasure. Change is never easy and sometimes you have to be uncomfortable in order to get to the other side.

River is a great teacher. The smile lowers your inhibition’s, her energy overcame the tendency to withdraw in the uncomfortableness of the group environment. She was always present during the exercise and observed when you were “cheating” or not doing the exercise correctly. River was really well prepared and organized. No time was wasted in our 14 hrs of class. The real clue that the class dynamic was working was that during our lunch break, everyone decided to stay together and eat at the same table.

My aha was that I get pleasure from taking. It's not that I have not been a taker all my life, it is just that I misidentified my taking as serving and that robbed me of pleasure.

The real life practices were key. I don’t think that watching the videos would get you into the mental space needed to really “get” what these new concepts really mean. Sometimes I think you have to be uncomfortable for a moment, in order for your mind to reorder its synapses and cause real meaningful change.

I have already recommended this workshop to my young chiropractor. As sort of a mentor to him, I told him that these kinds of lessons of the heart should be learned early or else life goes by and you regret time wasted.

The toughest moment for me it was that brief moment just before I sat down with a new practice partner.

To future participants I say: relax, any dread you may be feeling will dissipate quickly once the practices begin.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to test myself to see how I would react in a semi-sexual situation with an unknown group.

Before the workshop, my condition has been described as Touch Negative and Sexless. My approach to touch and choice has been limited to a formal dance floor where I ask a partner to dance. Or a career situation, where the touching is professional, handshakes and hugs only if the other person asks first.

About mid-way into the workshop, I gave up trying to fit in and started looking after myself more. What was useful was to see the perspectives of the participants start to change. Even those who had the workshop before or who knew the Wheel were there to try to break a restriction or a limit in their lives.

The group dynamic helped because in human beings we do have a desire for touch, pleasure, company, praise, gratitude, feeling successful, and just feeling good. All of these are difficult to do when we are alone. And when working in the groups, each can assist the other at some level, whether it is simply comfort or listening or giving attention.

Mostly the teaching method was like circuit assembly or building a model, where each component is built, and then the next piece added. In this case, the next verbal cue, consent, limits, and focus on self.

The most telling moment was when I was trying to say "I want" and I could not. I am quite good with words, and can write and talk for a mile, but saying "I want" was very difficult.

A big benefit of the workshop is setting up a group of people willing to talk and try the Wheel. The value I found in the workshop is that everyone came with the intention of learning something about setting boundaries and ending stereotypes.

This course personally helped me on several things. First, it was a test to see how I could react in such a situation. I did this workshop without research, and without heavy preparation. Trust. Trust. Trust it will be fine. Second, this was a strange situation that was going to include touch. Talking is easy. Working is easy. Touching is very hard.

At the end of this workshop I feel successful.

Maybe I am not as untouchable as I sometimes feel.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to heal from sexual trauma and find a way to have a better relationship with sex.

Before this workshop, I used to assume what the other person needs and give that to them in hopes of having needs my met.

About midway into the workshop I was feeling so happy that I was getting my touch needs met that all my fear of being unsafe in the world fell away.

Now I feel Empowered!

It’s incredible to get in touch with what makes me happy.  I am honoring that my body desperately needed a break from sex after all the trauma I put myself through for the past couple decades.  I finally realized I don’t really need a man as much as I thought I did—I would like to spend time getting to know myself more and discover what brings me pleasure.

By the end of the workshop I met a typical guy I usually fall for who would have been completely toxic for me, but I peacefully walked away from him and said yes to myself instead.  I was calling myself a love addict at the beginning of the workshop, and then that little miracle happened, so that was pretty huge for me.

The group dynamic helped me understand the content more and I felt so close to everyone especially after doing something so personal with almost everyone—touching and being touched.

This is a course about how to ask to get your needs met and how to get clear about the needs and intentions of people around you.  It’s for singles, couples, people enduring trauma, people who don’t know what they want, or who do but don’t know how to ask for it, it’s for everyone who wants to enjoy life more.  

The big benefits of this workshop are connectedness to others, increased feelings of pleasure, getting in touch with your pleasure, knowing and setting boundaries, knowing yourself more, improved success in all areas of life, self esteem boosting, increased desire, self acceptance and more.

The real life practices helped me know what I want, know how to ask for what I want, and to practice discernment and open heartedness with others.

River is compassionate, passionate and loving in her teaching.  She takes the time to coach everyone in the room with sensitivity towards everyone’s individual path.

I would recommend this class because everyone’s happiness matters.

I had to, and still am, working toward asking a man for how I want to be touched. It’s still hard but I will continue to work at it.

The most difficult part for me was not wanting to be open with the group after a stranger really hurt my feelings the day before.  I think my desire for connection overrode my feelings of hurt.

To future participants, I would say have an open mind to what is being offered and listen to what you want.  Also advocate for your comfort and needs—maybe it will get you in the mood to do that even after the workshop is over.

This course helped me find that hidden child just bursting with so much sunshine who wants nothing more than to share laughter and fun with the world, and that’s who I become when my needs are being met.  Amazing!

I hope to take this class again with River.

Everyone can benefit from understanding the Wheel of Consent and what dynamics are involved in all relationships.

It is empowering and life changing. 

I find that learning the Wheel of Consent is a beneficial tool to have in your pocket for any and every social interaction. By having an understanding of your intention, your dynamic, " who the gift is for", can change how you approach any discussion. It can help to navigate a discussion or sexual interaction towards clarity.

I took this workshop because I wanted to dive deeper into the Wheel of Consent and gain experience and tools to use. Now that I’ve taken the workshop, I feel like I have tools and a script in order to approach using touch in every day life and in my own teaching.  

Having the time to dedicate and dive deeper into each quadrant and practice what they mean is beneficial and totally worth it. 

This course is taught through a series of exercises or practices of concepts. As you repeat a practice you gain a deeper understanding of the implications of the exercise. And by last day you literally see how the pieces fit together when the diagram of the Wheel is presented to you.  Having the opportunity to use the tools is always helpful vs just listening to a lecture.  

It's always nice to explore topics in a group setting as others contribute their understandings and their experiences to create a more complete picture of how the Wheel works or how it can be used.  

My aha moment came several days after the workshop when I realized that I grew up in a household where boundaries were not respected and how it had impacted other areas of my life. As opposed to feeling like "i was broken,”, i realized it was a learned thing and also a skill that I could learn and therefore change upcoming behavior and situations. I had chosen to no longer be a victim of my circumstances but was missing pieces of my understanding as to how and why I was contributing to that behavior repeatedly. 

The toughest moment for me was realizing that I have been an active participant in my life - in the good stuff that has happened and the not so great stuff! And now - I have some tools to use to be able to be more empowered in all my interactions.  

The course gave me the time to explore the information in each of the quadrants, a chance to explore how the language and the actions relate and how they impact my interactions in every day life. 

To future participants I would say: Just do it! It is so worth it!  

~ famous dance instructor and explorer

The primary reason I took the workshop was to improve sex, and the communication around sex, with my wife. After 20 years, things between us had become, as I like to euphemize, well-practiced. 

Paradoxically, for all of our mutual experience, there was a real lack of communication, a lot of uncertainty, and too much built-up resentment in our sex life. I often wondered who I was touching her for. My wife would sometimes intuit that a certain act was for my benefit, even as I pretended it was for her. So intriguing, but also dangerous!

I wanted to understand more about who I was touching for in a given moment, and gain a better vocabulary for navigating sex and desire with my wife.

I think my confusion surrounding touch began early, like so many, as I fumbled through teenage sexual experience. I learned patterns of behavior, and modeled a staunch lack of communication, which became a sort of cycle.

That lack of communication around sex begat tentativeness, which in turn fostered deep uncertainty. Being uncertain offered me a fork in the road — quietly explore and hope for the best outcome (so many times not even knowing my own definition of a good outcome!), or go out on a limb and develop a language and courage surrounding desire. It seemed easier to make the silent, passive choice!

Taking pleasure though my hands was, ultimately, a big eye opener.

What I have loved most dearly about this work is how slowly it started, almost imperceptible. Delightful no doubt, the touching. But the ramifications of those not-quite-aha moments feel to me now like hurricane lashings brought on by the delicate flutter of a butterfly’s wings. 

Being in the group was helpful to me. We all had different perspectives on the workshop content, but River ensured everyone was heard, and integrated our varied perspectives into the lessons. For me, it was important to begin this type of work in a group setting — I felt supported in my journey. Learning new things in a room surrounded by like-minded people who understood each other.

Afterward, I was able to apply the Wheel practices alone and with my wife. But the group offered such unique support and belonging, which was wonderful.

With regard to River as a teacher, I started with “patient and kind.” Which River certainly is. And then I looked up 1 Corinthians 13:4 because I felt like I was starting wedding vows and, wow, is that passage apropos! River is love!

Seriously — so. much. patience. Holding space for every person in the group. A profound sense of inclusion. Nurturing in the sense of encouraging — and deeply caring about — the growth of others. 

River is also a superlative facilitator. I remember calling River “a born leader” as we gave our exit interviews in-group. And then I felt terrible having used that language because I sense her leadership skills are borne from incredible sacrifice, hard work, tenacity, and attention. A life’s work that isn’t easily encapsulated, or was ever something that “just happened.”

For me the “aha” moment was when I [finally] realized River was going to go from the practice to the theory. It took forever to get to the actual wheel diagram! Aha!

I’d already read a lot about the wheel and dug into Betty Martin’s site before I attended the workshop. I loved the way River led us through the material — first experiencing the different quadrants of the wheel, and what each one awakened in our bodies. Only then did we consume the Wheel theory with our minds. Aha! Perfect! 

To River: thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you!

~ a professional designer and father of young children in his late 30’s

I primarily took this workshop to help me understand healthy boundaries better, especially my boundaries.

Before the workshop, touch was something I felt I needed and had no choice in needing more, nor in what kind of touch I could both give and receive.

Mid-way through the workshop, I tapped into a part of myself that desired specific touch, in specific ways, and for the first time, I began to feel like I had permission to choose.

In addition, I began to feel safer when touching others. I felt that I could trust them and their directions to guide me to the right touch far more than I have ever trusted people who let me touch them before.

Since the workshop has ended, I have been terrifyingly empowered to discover my true pleasure and desires outside of what I learned from others. I attribute this to the encouragement and celebration of taking my own pleasure.

I also find myself deepening my trust and therefore intimacy with my partner, opening myself up to an inner vulnerability that I did not know existed. The trust came when I practiced setting boundaries as totally free, sacred desires that I now had the right to express no matter the situation or the circumstance.

The group meshed very well to me. We all were committed to the workshop and we all cooperated together to give each other and ourselves the richest experience. Whether I was with a man or a woman, it didn’t matter. We were comrades, taking this journey together.

As a whole, I would say our unity allowed us to raise each other and dive deeper together than we ever would have alone or if there was discord in our group. People felt safe to, and did, share deep personal feelings, cry, laugh together, and generally enjoy the process in an uninhibited way. That’s why we had such an amazing experience.

In the course, we were taught through simple guided exercises in a small enough group that our instructor could tailor the lesson plan and pace to our individual needs as much as to the group's. There was some discussion and lecture but it was always very interactive and free form; allowing us to joke, laugh, and ask questions throughout the spoken part of the course.

The real life practices were the experiential journeys that brought me into my body, into my heart, and into myself. They were the “keys” to the workshop that allowed me to not just think about what we were learning but to both feel them in my body and also feel what comes up for me or how I react when I put these ideas into practice.

River exuded a gentleness confidence, and passion for the material that drew all of us students in from the moment we started the class. During the class, she engaged with each of us individually and tailored the pace of the class to suit what we were ready for in each moment. My favorite part was how she kept the tone light and informal so that the class was as much about having fun with these practices, as it was about learning them. At the end, she felt like a friend as much as a teacher.

I would say that the big benefits for me were two-fold.

1) Receiving permission and encouragement to pursue my own personal pleasure and by extension, to my true desires. Especially important as a part of that is being guided to how to feel those genuine desires in the first place.

2) Experiencing what truly clear boundaries and consensual interactions between people are really like, including how to create those for myself and practice them in my own life. Feeling my right to hold my boundaries wherever “I” needed to in the moment was another revelation for me.

The workshop completely challenged my old ideas of what pleasure was, what I wanted in the moment, and more. In order to keep moving forward in in the workshop I had to move through fear of what I held inside and the utter belief in my own failure should my insides not measure up. Getting through and touching my forgotten truth and bodily feelings was raw, painful, and intense; but I cannot describe the relief I felt at finally being able to “listen” to my self/my body again.

Part way through the second day, during an exercise to “take” my pleasure from an object, I touched a hidden part of me deep inside where my true capacity to experience genuine pleasure was hidden. I then felt how different what I thought I had wanted based on porn, movies, and other societal messages was from what I truly desired inside. It was an incredibly raw, painful, and enlightening experience which, alone, would have made the whole workshop worth it.

My toughest moment was on Saturday when, during an exercise, I felt what I just described above. I did not want to touch these hidden inner parts of myself, much less do it in a circle with a bunch of strangers whom I had met the day before. I kept going though and went through the monumental task of accepting my feelings and then letting them out and sobbing in the classroom for a while. I refused to let go, just as I refused to give up on myself.

This course helped me in so many ways, but personally, I think the biggest was the permission to really value myself. This valuing showed up in the form of discovering and owning what “I” genuinely desired regardless of outside influences, as well as knowing that I had the right and the strength to defend my true boundaries, no matter how much that may bother others.

I recommend this workshop to anyone who is interested in being more deeply connected to their bodies and in having clearer understandings of boundaries. I recommend it because it takes us into a deeper layer of “listening” to our bodies and to others, thusly to the often forgotten parts of ourselves and of our relationships.

To you who will be attending in the future, I only ask that you come into this with respect for something that has more to offer which, despite how simple it may sound, you do not understand yet. Also, the more you commit, the more you will get out of it.

~ man in his 30’s who has a partner who knows the Wheel

I took this workshop to access more pleasure in my body, learn how to give and receive care with more awareness, and help others do the same.

Before this workshop began, I approached touch and choice without the distinction of 'who is this for?' About mid-way into the workshop, I experienced more pleasure in my hands and body! More a-ha's around the difference between giving/receiving, doing/done to.

Now that the workshop is over, I feel empowered. Embodied. Inspired.

The teaching methodology of this workshop is part didactic, part experiential. It is a workshop to empower reconnecting with the pleasure in your body, attention and attunement to others, and negotiating skills in giving and receiving care.

The real life practices in the workshop helped make the lessons real and more embodied.

The group dynamic in this workshop helped. The intimacy and vulnerability of sharing with individuals put pressure on my actual (not just imagined) barriers and deficits when it comes to giving and receiving care. 

I had a personal “aha” moment realizing that I tend to focus on giving pleasure to others, and feel shy when it comes to asking for what brings me pleasure.

My toughest moment in the workshop was probably 'taking' pleasure for myself from a partner that I did not know - it felt very intimate and I felt shy about exploring those boundaries fully.

I realized that I find it difficult to 'impose' what I desire on others unless it's pleasurable for them. 

The big benefits of this workshop are getting clarity around knowing what I desire from feeling it in my body, and how to navigate boundaries and situations where the heat gets turned up in intimacy.

I recommend this workshop to others because having an understanding of who the giving/receiving of care is for changes the way I relate with people and can help heal a world full of people feeling abusive and abused. Also recognizing we need to take responsibility to discover through our bodies what we desire and what our boundaries truly are is important. 

To future participants, I would say: Be willing to touch and be touched, be willing to turn your awareness into your senses and your inner world. Be prepared to ask for what you truly desire.

This workshop helped me personally because I feel more confident to ask for what I want, not take it personally if someone can't/doesn't want to give that, and also set my own limits around giving and receiving.

River is a great teacher in her ability to be relaxed and present, playful and sincere, guiding yet allowing, and helping people touch into uncomfortable places with support and grace.

I hope that this can be taught to everyone!

~ a psychotherapist in his 30’s who focuses on sex and relationship issues

My primary reason for taking this workshop was my divorce and how meaningless my marriage had became. The lack of love, passion, sex, touch, etc. turned me into such an introvert which is unlike my old self.  I missed the person I used to be and wanted to see if something was really wrong with me.

Before this workshop began, I thought I was passionate and seductive.  However, I never really knew whether it was for me or my ex-wife. We didn't communicate so everything was left to what was going through our minds.  Not smart.

At first, I thought I was broken with all these other people in the workshop describing their experiences as seductive and sensual and whatever.  I was like "what the hell are you guys smoking because I need some." Then when I went home and reflected on what I heard, I tried again. This time I slowed down and listened to my body and was so excited that I sent River a message that night.

About mid-way into the workshop, I realized that it was good to want, and great to give pleasure exactly the way someone asked. I didn't have to feel inadequate.  It was exhilarating and although I was only rubbing a woman's hand and arm up to her elbow it was better than sex I've had.  So just imagine what I can do when I do have sex.  Delish! ;)

Towards the end of this workshop, I feel pretty awesome and I want to continue growing my relationships with some of the members.  It’s great that I've seen some at other meetups.

The small group was ideal because we were all heard and were more open with each other. I wouldn't have liked the course as much if there were more than a dozen people.

This workshop will start off mildly so you don't freak out, especially for those that have issues with being touched, and will progress.  You can also opt out if you just want to watch or don't feel into the exercise although I never opted out. :) By the end of the course I was sad that we would be parting ways.

I had a huge aha moment the first time I was receiving the gift exactly the way I asked without giving anything back.  It was AMAZING!

The real life practices made us stick to boundaries and created a very safe and open environment so nobody felt like we were expected to go beyond what was given as a guideline.

The workshop helped me personally because I felt pretty shy at first and now I feel more empowered especially when it comes to others that feel the same way. I'm not in a relationship so I haven't been able to share with a partner yet.  However, the class has given me a better understanding of how to ask for things that I want, and more appropriate phrasing.

The toughest moment for me was when I was approached by a male to be his partner since I was in a playful mood and would have rather given/taken with a female partner. It wasn't until River changed my perspective of the situation that I was able to get out of my own head and see it for what it was. The ability to explore the actual flesh, tendons, scars, etc. was pretty amazing and wonderful in an exploratory way instead of a sexual or seductive experience.

Here is why I would recommend this workshop:  We live in this jaded "don't hurt my feelings" and instant gratification world which desensitizes most interactions. I'm new to this dating world and most interactions with women have been disappointing so far. I've learned that this group is looking for more of an understanding of themselves and what is and isn't alright, and what we are allowed to ask for and that boundaries are ok. We aren't here just to make every other person feel good about themselves. 

I would advise future participants to be open to the concept and hear what others are sharing. Be more than the majority of the population out there since life can be amazing once you aren't expectant and you are willing to share with an open heart.  

Oh, and make sure to at least get one big hug from River.  ;)

As a teacher, River rocks, is sexy, crude in the best way possible, and seems to be very accepting of all walks of life.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to work through long term issues related to my sex life. Lack of confidence, lack of understanding of my own wants and desires, all of that combining into overthinking and performance issues. 

In hindsight, before this workshop I truly had no awareness of touch or consent beyond the most basic definition. Everything was based on inferences, assumptions, and caution to avoid crossing invisible lines. 

Throughout the first full day I experienced multiple milestones and emotional unlocks. The first time I put focus solely into my own sensation. The first time I touched another person with 100% confidence that what I was doing was ok for them. The first time the idea that touching or allowing touch could be a gift. It all led to a completely transformative viewpoint on my own sensations (I can have them!), desires (I can find them!) and experiences (I can enjoy them!). 

Overall, now I feel a sense of optimism about my sensual life that I had assumed for years wouldn't be possible. In the day since the workshop I feel myself torn between joy at these new tools and understandings, and frustration that I can't keep practicing them immediately. I am looking forward to engaging with people physically in a way I haven't in a long, long time. 

The group experience made a profound difference. If instead of fourteen hours with this group I had fourteen hours of 1:1 coaching I wouldn't have made it even halfway as far along. The ability to experience with others made everything real in a way that working with a trained professional wouldn't have. I could trust what I was feeling because I heard from others feeling it too. The experiences, insights and questions they all so bravely offered triggered many learnings that I would not have been able to unlock alone. 

The group dynamic helped the most in the touch experiences. Being able to both give and receive the gift of touch with a variety of people of all genders really showed the power of the Wheel of Consent methodology. It gave a chance to experience with a stranger in a way that demonstrated safety, integrity and joy. 

The class brilliantly blends experiential learning with intellectual descriptions of what happened. The combination of the two means every lesson is both heard and felt to satisfy all types of learners. 

River teaches with a spectacularly open heart. Her willingness to share from her own experience and create space for participants to do the same enabled real evolution. Her mix of experiential guiding, intellectual understanding, and loving acceptance delivered the ideal conditions for learning. 

I had a moment of realization that many other people face the same challenges. Struggling with intimacy and desire presents an incredibly lonely journey so having the experience normalized both at a societal level and by the group felt profound. 

The big benefits of this workshop are to walk away with the vocabulary, tools and optimism to work through further unlocking at whatever pace, and with whomever, that you prefer. 

The practices made it real. To actually experience sensation with another person, in a totally safe environment, for even just a few minutes, proved that change is possible in a way no lecture, reading or video could. 

I would recommend the workshop because it provides a framework that allows engaging sensually with another at the deepest level while still being true to yourself and maintaining your integrity.

Things you did not think would be possible in human relationships will come into view through these three days. 

A challenge for me was that I had to accept how many mental blockers I was carrying. I had to forgive myself for having never truly looked inside myself. I had to forgive myself for wasted decades of pain and instead focus on what the Wheel of Consent could unlock. 

My biggest challenge was touching and being touched by other men. As a straight man I carry many of societies hangups about that. The container of the workshop created a space, and a method, to set those fears aside and connect in a way that allowed me to grow and actually confirm my understanding of my limits in an empowering way. 

To future participants I say: Let yourself have the experience. Don't spend your time thinking about what you are doing, what you may do, or what it means, just let River's voice guide you to unlock the self knowledge you've been missing. 

I don't think I can yet put into words how much this course helped me. The best way I can put things so far is that it gave me hope. It showed me that my life can be different and gave me tools to begin that journey. 

There was so much here I'm still processing it. I feel like depending on the personal situation of someone I was speaking to about the course I would highlight different things. 

I'm not sure where it fits but the whole weekend almost felt like I was in another dimension. During the sessions my sense of time was way off, I felt deeply at peace, and I could happily have kept going for days. 

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to find another tool to add to my toolkit.

Before this workshop began, I used to get fuzzy once I lost sight of my desire.

Now, towards the end of this workshop I feel empowered to speak my desire. I don't need to caretake.

Our group had a sweet energy as we came together in our experiences. For me, it was good to not know anyone initially or have an attraction to anyone in the group regardless of orientation and to work with all genders. I was able to have my journey without the cloudiness I feel from sexual or erotic desire. I love those feelings too. I just think it helped me to not have to deal with those emotions in this instance.

This course is taught with subtlety and nuance which allows you to really search inside yourself for your true desire.  River is an excellent guide for this journey. She remained attuned to the group and followed where the energy of the group led her. This allowed for a custom experience for all.

I had a personal experience of an “aha” moment when I realized how many times I was giving mixed signals with my straight friends. Now I will simply focus on my desire and make a request for my pleasure. If someone has a request for me, then I will go on my journey and find my limits. 

One of the big benefits of this workshop is the Wheel itself. Language to help me explain all of these inner thoughts.

The real-life practices in the workshop helped me to feel the nuance and practice going on my journey.

I believe this course is a prerequisite for life and everyone should have this skill. I don't know if it fits under the umbrella of emotional intelligence or some other intelligence but it should be defined in that way in my opinion.

There were many tears shed in this workshop but it was a good cry. The word catharsis comes to mind.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to get to know more about Wheel of Consent before the Like a Pro workshop, kind of a warmup.

Before this workshop began I would say I was a bit reserved with strangers. About mid-way into the workshop, magic happened.

If anyone wants to seed and grow new neural pathways for healing and success, try this workshop out.

It was an eye opening experience to be part of our group with wide emotional challenges and traumatic experiences. Slowly by the end, with River's ability to hold the safe space, every one ended up opening their tender part to see what they were missing all along.

As a teacher, River was amazing, gifted, experienced, a strong and passionate healer on a mission.  I appreciated the way River was not afraid to directly address our mind tricks and old stories.

I learned life inspiring experiences. And I recognize this is an on going practice. This course strengthened my resolve and I feel empowered to inspire and heal people in need. 

I had a great time all along. To future participants, I would say let things flow and do not overthink the situation. Trust River, she will get you flowing.

I took this workshop because I wanted clarity on how to determine what I desire and how to ask for it, as well as manage my own boundaries and know when I need to say no.  

Before this workshop began I used to let the other party lead and I would follow, keeping a sharp eye out for my boundaries. I was hyper-focused on how far was too far and how far I wouldn't go and when I would need to say "stop." I hadn't considered that it was valid for me to have specific desires and to ask for them to be fulfilled.   

Learning to say, "I want" was challenging. 

Now, a lot of possibility is showing up for how relationships could be. This applies to all areas of my life. I'm looking forward to using these concepts with my friends to create even more satisfying friendships.  

I always seem to learn more in a group setting. It was difficult to connect with some of the other students, but I appreciated hearing the range of experiences they were having, and it was interesting to see how almost all of them had blocks to using the Wheel as it was intended. It was a good mirror to show me where I was blocked and stuck myself.

The group dynamic helps because I like to express myself. Having other people witness my illuminations is very healing to me. Hearing others' perspectives is also valuable, because I can often see others' blind spots and then investigate where I might have a similar blind spot.   

River is a dynamic, compassionate, clear teacher. She will honor me at the same time that she challenges me to choose an upgraded way of interacting with others. She celebrates the smallest of shifts. I respect, admire, and love her style of teaching and her way of being.      

Shifting out of normal and into extraordinary in just one relationship in my life would be worth it, and the fact is that I can try these tools in every relationship of my life, and use them even in short interactions, say with my massage therapist.     

Being able to feel kinesthetically the difference between the 4 modes of touch solidified the teaching.  

Learning to discover and speak my desires, own them, and interact with others' desires is something not taught to me in schools or by my parents. This workshop filled a huge void, and I believe I can upgrade my life with this concept. 

I had to give up on a lot of myths that weren't working for me, like, "If you love me, you'll just magically know what I want." and that talking about consent beforehand couldn't possibly be fun and it will kill the mood. I felt relief, since these beliefs hadn't been working for me anyway. They had simply been prompting me to wonder what was wrong with ME that they weren't working for me. But what if they're lies and illusions and they don't work for anyone....?    

Giving and receiving to people I didn't know or care about was difficult. It felt like a waste of energy, since I didn't see this partnering as turning into anything significant, for the most part. I kept going because I figured it was good to practice with someone where the stakes are low, instead of practicing with someone where it feels the stakes are impossibly high (which means I'm much less likely to express myself authentically and honor my boundaries).  

Getting clear on the difference between the person doing the action and who it's for was illuminating. Practicing using the specific language helped anchor this concept in my body.  

To future participants I say: Listen to your body to hear what it wants. Ask for more than what you think is "acceptable" if that's what truly sounds wonderful to you. Practice speaking your heart's desire. Get in the habit of honoring your desires.  

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to improve communications in my relationship with my partner.

Before this workshop, in my head, I always thought of my touch experiences as me giving good feelings to others. The concept of taking was foreign to me.

Halfway through the course, after being called out for not taking, I was again given the opportunity to take via touch. Once I did it, it was a real breakthrough for me. I learned both that I had taken in the past, I had just labeled it as a gift and that I get pleasure from getting others to examine and move their limits. I do this at work, when I push others to change the way they work and improve their practices. At home I push my partner in little ways, over the years, to expand our sexual activities to new directions. I do this by pushing limits.

For me, that I was able to find out something real that I had not known about myself, what gives me pleasure at home and at work. It was a real AhHa moment for me.

Even though the touch experienced in this case was non-sexual, just the action of touching an arm of strangers was uncomfortable at first. The first person I was paired with shed tears and we were just touching hands and wrists. Then later in class, being asked to “take” touch for my own pleasure with these people who in any other circumstances I would want to give comfort or pleasure. Change is never easy and sometimes you have to be uncomfortable in order to get to the other side.

River is a great teacher. The smile lowers your inhibition’s, her energy overcame the tendency to withdraw in the uncomfortableness of the group environment. She was always present during the exercise and observed when you were “cheating” or not doing the exercise correctly. River was really well prepared and organized. No time was wasted in our 14 hrs of class. The real clue that the class dynamic was working was that during our lunch break, everyone decided to stay together and eat at the same table.

My aha was that I get pleasure from taking. It's not that I have not been a taker all my life, it is just that I misidentified my taking as serving and that robbed me of pleasure.

The real life practices were key. I don’t think that watching the videos would get you into the mental space needed to really “get” what these new concepts really mean. Sometimes I think you have to be uncomfortable for a moment, in order for your mind to reorder its synapses and cause real meaningful change.

I have already recommended this workshop to my young chiropractor. As sort of a mentor to him, I told him that these kinds of lessons of the heart should be learned early or else life goes by and you regret time wasted.

The toughest moment for me it was that brief moment just before I sat down with a new practice partner.

To future participants I say: relax, any dread you may be feeling will dissipate quickly once the practices begin.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to test myself to see how I would react in a semi-sexual situation with an unknown group.

Before the workshop, my condition has been described as Touch Negative and Sexless. My approach to touch and choice has been limited to a formal dance floor where I ask a partner to dance. Or a career situation, where the touching is professional, handshakes and hugs only if the other person asks first.

About mid-way into the workshop, I gave up trying to fit in and started looking after myself more. What was useful was to see the perspectives of the participants start to change. Even those who had the workshop before or who knew the Wheel were there to try to break a restriction or a limit in their lives.

The group dynamic helped because in human beings we do have a desire for touch, pleasure, company, praise, gratitude, feeling successful, and just feeling good. All of these are difficult to do when we are alone. And when working in the groups, each can assist the other at some level, whether it is simply comfort or listening or giving attention.

Mostly the teaching method was like circuit assembly or building a model, where each component is built, and then the next piece added. In this case, the next verbal cue, consent, limits, and focus on self.

The most telling moment was when I was trying to say "I want" and I could not. I am quite good with words, and can write and talk for a mile, but saying "I want" was very difficult.

A big benefit of the workshop is setting up a group of people willing to talk and try the Wheel. The value I found in the workshop is that everyone came with the intention of learning something about setting boundaries and ending stereotypes.

This course personally helped me on several things. First, it was a test to see how I could react in such a situation. I did this workshop without research, and without heavy preparation. Trust. Trust. Trust it will be fine. Second, this was a strange situation that was going to include touch. Talking is easy. Working is easy. Touching is very hard.

At the end of this workshop I feel successful.

Maybe I am not as untouchable as I sometimes feel.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to heal from sexual trauma and find a way to have a better relationship with sex.

Before this workshop, I used to assume what the other person needs and give that to them in hopes of having needs my met.

About midway into the workshop I was feeling so happy that I was getting my touch needs met that all my fear of being unsafe in the world fell away.

Now I feel Empowered!

It’s incredible to get in touch with what makes me happy.  I am honoring that my body desperately needed a break from sex after all the trauma I put myself through for the past couple decades.  I finally realized I don’t really need a man as much as I thought I did—I would like to spend time getting to know myself more and discover what brings me pleasure.

By the end of the workshop I met a typical guy I usually fall for who would have been completely toxic for me, but I peacefully walked away from him and said yes to myself instead.  I was calling myself a love addict at the beginning of the workshop, and then that little miracle happened, so that was pretty huge for me.

The group dynamic helped me understand the content more and I felt so close to everyone especially after doing something so personal with almost everyone—touching and being touched.

This is a course about how to ask to get your needs met and how to get clear about the needs and intentions of people around you.  It’s for singles, couples, people enduring trauma, people who don’t know what they want, or who do but don’t know how to ask for it, it’s for everyone who wants to enjoy life more.  

The big benefits of this workshop are connectedness to others, increased feelings of pleasure, getting in touch with your pleasure, knowing and setting boundaries, knowing yourself more, improved success in all areas of life, self esteem boosting, increased desire, self acceptance and more.

The real life practices helped me know what I want, know how to ask for what I want, and to practice discernment and open heartedness with others.

River is compassionate, passionate and loving in her teaching.  She takes the time to coach everyone in the room with sensitivity towards everyone’s individual path.

I would recommend this class because everyone’s happiness matters.

I had to, and still am, working toward asking a man for how I want to be touched. It’s still hard but I will continue to work at it.

The most difficult part for me was not wanting to be open with the group after a stranger really hurt my feelings the day before.  I think my desire for connection overrode my feelings of hurt.

To future participants, I would say have an open mind to what is being offered and listen to what you want.  Also advocate for your comfort and needs—maybe it will get you in the mood to do that even after the workshop is over.

This course helped me find that hidden child just bursting with so much sunshine who wants nothing more than to share laughter and fun with the world, and that’s who I become when my needs are being met.  Amazing!

I hope to take this class again with River.

Everyone can benefit from understanding the Wheel of Consent and what dynamics are involved in all relationships.

It is empowering and life changing. 

I find that learning the Wheel of Consent is a beneficial tool to have in your pocket for any and every social interaction. By having an understanding of your intention, your dynamic, " who the gift is for", can change how you approach any discussion. It can help to navigate a discussion or sexual interaction towards clarity.

I took this workshop because I wanted to dive deeper into the Wheel of Consent and gain experience and tools to use. Now that I’ve taken the workshop, I feel like I have tools and a script in order to approach using touch in every day life and in my own teaching.  

Having the time to dedicate and dive deeper into each quadrant and practice what they mean is beneficial and totally worth it. 

This course is taught through a series of exercises or practices of concepts. As you repeat a practice you gain a deeper understanding of the implications of the exercise. And by last day you literally see how the pieces fit together when the diagram of the Wheel is presented to you.  Having the opportunity to use the tools is always helpful vs just listening to a lecture.  

It's always nice to explore topics in a group setting as others contribute their understandings and their experiences to create a more complete picture of how the Wheel works or how it can be used.  

My aha moment came several days after the workshop when I realized that I grew up in a household where boundaries were not respected and how it had impacted other areas of my life. As opposed to feeling like "i was broken,”, i realized it was a learned thing and also a skill that I could learn and therefore change upcoming behavior and situations. I had chosen to no longer be a victim of my circumstances but was missing pieces of my understanding as to how and why I was contributing to that behavior repeatedly. 

The toughest moment for me was realizing that I have been an active participant in my life - in the good stuff that has happened and the not so great stuff! And now - I have some tools to use to be able to be more empowered in all my interactions.  

The course gave me the time to explore the information in each of the quadrants, a chance to explore how the language and the actions relate and how they impact my interactions in every day life. 

To future participants I would say: Just do it! It is so worth it!  

~ famous dance instructor and explorer

The primary reason I took the workshop was to improve sex, and the communication around sex, with my wife. After 20 years, things between us had become, as I like to euphemize, well-practiced. 

Paradoxically, for all of our mutual experience, there was a real lack of communication, a lot of uncertainty, and too much built-up resentment in our sex life. I often wondered who I was touching her for. My wife would sometimes intuit that a certain act was for my benefit, even as I pretended it was for her. So intriguing, but also dangerous!

I wanted to understand more about who I was touching for in a given moment, and gain a better vocabulary for navigating sex and desire with my wife.

I think my confusion surrounding touch began early, like so many, as I fumbled through teenage sexual experience. I learned patterns of behavior, and modeled a staunch lack of communication, which became a sort of cycle.

That lack of communication around sex begat tentativeness, which in turn fostered deep uncertainty. Being uncertain offered me a fork in the road — quietly explore and hope for the best outcome (so many times not even knowing my own definition of a good outcome!), or go out on a limb and develop a language and courage surrounding desire. It seemed easier to make the silent, passive choice!

Taking pleasure though my hands was, ultimately, a big eye opener.

What I have loved most dearly about this work is how slowly it started, almost imperceptible. Delightful no doubt, the touching. But the ramifications of those not-quite-aha moments feel to me now like hurricane lashings brought on by the delicate flutter of a butterfly’s wings. 

Being in the group was helpful to me. We all had different perspectives on the workshop content, but River ensured everyone was heard, and integrated our varied perspectives into the lessons. For me, it was important to begin this type of work in a group setting — I felt supported in my journey. Learning new things in a room surrounded by like-minded people who understood each other.

Afterward, I was able to apply the Wheel practices alone and with my wife. But the group offered such unique support and belonging, which was wonderful.

With regard to River as a teacher, I started with “patient and kind.” Which River certainly is. And then I looked up 1 Corinthians 13:4 because I felt like I was starting wedding vows and, wow, is that passage apropos! River is love!

Seriously — so. much. patience. Holding space for every person in the group. A profound sense of inclusion. Nurturing in the sense of encouraging — and deeply caring about — the growth of others. 

River is also a superlative facilitator. I remember calling River “a born leader” as we gave our exit interviews in-group. And then I felt terrible having used that language because I sense her leadership skills are borne from incredible sacrifice, hard work, tenacity, and attention. A life’s work that isn’t easily encapsulated, or was ever something that “just happened.”

For me the “aha” moment was when I [finally] realized River was going to go from the practice to the theory. It took forever to get to the actual wheel diagram! Aha!

I’d already read a lot about the wheel and dug into Betty Martin’s site before I attended the workshop. I loved the way River led us through the material — first experiencing the different quadrants of the wheel, and what each one awakened in our bodies. Only then did we consume the Wheel theory with our minds. Aha! Perfect! 

To River: thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you!

~ a professional designer and father of young children in his late 30’s

I primarily took this workshop to help me understand healthy boundaries better, especially my boundaries.

Before the workshop, touch was something I felt I needed and had no choice in needing more, nor in what kind of touch I could both give and receive.

Mid-way through the workshop, I tapped into a part of myself that desired specific touch, in specific ways, and for the first time, I began to feel like I had permission to choose.

In addition, I began to feel safer when touching others. I felt that I could trust them and their directions to guide me to the right touch far more than I have ever trusted people who let me touch them before.

Since the workshop has ended, I have been terrifyingly empowered to discover my true pleasure and desires outside of what I learned from others. I attribute this to the encouragement and celebration of taking my own pleasure.

I also find myself deepening my trust and therefore intimacy with my partner, opening myself up to an inner vulnerability that I did not know existed. The trust came when I practiced setting boundaries as totally free, sacred desires that I now had the right to express no matter the situation or the circumstance.

The group meshed very well to me. We all were committed to the workshop and we all cooperated together to give each other and ourselves the richest experience. Whether I was with a man or a woman, it didn’t matter. We were comrades, taking this journey together.

As a whole, I would say our unity allowed us to raise each other and dive deeper together than we ever would have alone or if there was discord in our group. People felt safe to, and did, share deep personal feelings, cry, laugh together, and generally enjoy the process in an uninhibited way. That’s why we had such an amazing experience.

In the course, we were taught through simple guided exercises in a small enough group that our instructor could tailor the lesson plan and pace to our individual needs as much as to the group's. There was some discussion and lecture but it was always very interactive and free form; allowing us to joke, laugh, and ask questions throughout the spoken part of the course.

The real life practices were the experiential journeys that brought me into my body, into my heart, and into myself. They were the “keys” to the workshop that allowed me to not just think about what we were learning but to both feel them in my body and also feel what comes up for me or how I react when I put these ideas into practice.

River exuded a gentleness confidence, and passion for the material that drew all of us students in from the moment we started the class. During the class, she engaged with each of us individually and tailored the pace of the class to suit what we were ready for in each moment. My favorite part was how she kept the tone light and informal so that the class was as much about having fun with these practices, as it was about learning them. At the end, she felt like a friend as much as a teacher.

I would say that the big benefits for me were two-fold.

1) Receiving permission and encouragement to pursue my own personal pleasure and by extension, to my true desires. Especially important as a part of that is being guided to how to feel those genuine desires in the first place.

2) Experiencing what truly clear boundaries and consensual interactions between people are really like, including how to create those for myself and practice them in my own life. Feeling my right to hold my boundaries wherever “I” needed to in the moment was another revelation for me.

The workshop completely challenged my old ideas of what pleasure was, what I wanted in the moment, and more. In order to keep moving forward in in the workshop I had to move through fear of what I held inside and the utter belief in my own failure should my insides not measure up. Getting through and touching my forgotten truth and bodily feelings was raw, painful, and intense; but I cannot describe the relief I felt at finally being able to “listen” to my self/my body again.

Part way through the second day, during an exercise to “take” my pleasure from an object, I touched a hidden part of me deep inside where my true capacity to experience genuine pleasure was hidden. I then felt how different what I thought I had wanted based on porn, movies, and other societal messages was from what I truly desired inside. It was an incredibly raw, painful, and enlightening experience which, alone, would have made the whole workshop worth it.

My toughest moment was on Saturday when, during an exercise, I felt what I just described above. I did not want to touch these hidden inner parts of myself, much less do it in a circle with a bunch of strangers whom I had met the day before. I kept going though and went through the monumental task of accepting my feelings and then letting them out and sobbing in the classroom for a while. I refused to let go, just as I refused to give up on myself.

This course helped me in so many ways, but personally, I think the biggest was the permission to really value myself. This valuing showed up in the form of discovering and owning what “I” genuinely desired regardless of outside influences, as well as knowing that I had the right and the strength to defend my true boundaries, no matter how much that may bother others.

I recommend this workshop to anyone who is interested in being more deeply connected to their bodies and in having clearer understandings of boundaries. I recommend it because it takes us into a deeper layer of “listening” to our bodies and to others, thusly to the often forgotten parts of ourselves and of our relationships.

To you who will be attending in the future, I only ask that you come into this with respect for something that has more to offer which, despite how simple it may sound, you do not understand yet. Also, the more you commit, the more you will get out of it.

~ man in his 30’s who has a partner who knows the Wheel

I took this workshop to access more pleasure in my body, learn how to give and receive care with more awareness, and help others do the same.

Before this workshop began, I approached touch and choice without the distinction of 'who is this for?' About mid-way into the workshop, I experienced more pleasure in my hands and body! More a-ha's around the difference between giving/receiving, doing/done to.

Now that the workshop is over, I feel empowered. Embodied. Inspired.

The teaching methodology of this workshop is part didactic, part experiential. It is a workshop to empower reconnecting with the pleasure in your body, attention and attunement to others, and negotiating skills in giving and receiving care.

The real life practices in the workshop helped make the lessons real and more embodied.

The group dynamic in this workshop helped. The intimacy and vulnerability of sharing with individuals put pressure on my actual (not just imagined) barriers and deficits when it comes to giving and receiving care. 

I had a personal “aha” moment realizing that I tend to focus on giving pleasure to others, and feel shy when it comes to asking for what brings me pleasure.

My toughest moment in the workshop was probably 'taking' pleasure for myself from a partner that I did not know - it felt very intimate and I felt shy about exploring those boundaries fully.

I realized that I find it difficult to 'impose' what I desire on others unless it's pleasurable for them. 

The big benefits of this workshop are getting clarity around knowing what I desire from feeling it in my body, and how to navigate boundaries and situations where the heat gets turned up in intimacy.

I recommend this workshop to others because having an understanding of who the giving/receiving of care is for changes the way I relate with people and can help heal a world full of people feeling abusive and abused. Also recognizing we need to take responsibility to discover through our bodies what we desire and what our boundaries truly are is important. 

To future participants, I would say: Be willing to touch and be touched, be willing to turn your awareness into your senses and your inner world. Be prepared to ask for what you truly desire.

This workshop helped me personally because I feel more confident to ask for what I want, not take it personally if someone can't/doesn't want to give that, and also set my own limits around giving and receiving.

River is a great teacher in her ability to be relaxed and present, playful and sincere, guiding yet allowing, and helping people touch into uncomfortable places with support and grace.

I hope that this can be taught to everyone!

~ a psychotherapist in his 30’s who focuses on sex and relationship issues

My primary reason for taking this workshop was my divorce and how meaningless my marriage had became. The lack of love, passion, sex, touch, etc. turned me into such an introvert which is unlike my old self.  I missed the person I used to be and wanted to see if something was really wrong with me.

Before this workshop began, I thought I was passionate and seductive.  However, I never really knew whether it was for me or my ex-wife. We didn't communicate so everything was left to what was going through our minds.  Not smart.

At first, I thought I was broken with all these other people in the workshop describing their experiences as seductive and sensual and whatever.  I was like "what the hell are you guys smoking because I need some." Then when I went home and reflected on what I heard, I tried again. This time I slowed down and listened to my body and was so excited that I sent River a message that night.

About mid-way into the workshop, I realized that it was good to want, and great to give pleasure exactly the way someone asked. I didn't have to feel inadequate.  It was exhilarating and although I was only rubbing a woman's hand and arm up to her elbow it was better than sex I've had.  So just imagine what I can do when I do have sex.  Delish! ;)

Towards the end of this workshop, I feel pretty awesome and I want to continue growing my relationships with some of the members.  It’s great that I've seen some at other meetups.

The small group was ideal because we were all heard and were more open with each other. I wouldn't have liked the course as much if there were more than a dozen people.

This workshop will start off mildly so you don't freak out, especially for those that have issues with being touched, and will progress.  You can also opt out if you just want to watch or don't feel into the exercise although I never opted out. :) By the end of the course I was sad that we would be parting ways.

I had a huge aha moment the first time I was receiving the gift exactly the way I asked without giving anything back.  It was AMAZING!

The real life practices made us stick to boundaries and created a very safe and open environment so nobody felt like we were expected to go beyond what was given as a guideline.

The workshop helped me personally because I felt pretty shy at first and now I feel more empowered especially when it comes to others that feel the same way. I'm not in a relationship so I haven't been able to share with a partner yet.  However, the class has given me a better understanding of how to ask for things that I want, and more appropriate phrasing.

The toughest moment for me was when I was approached by a male to be his partner since I was in a playful mood and would have rather given/taken with a female partner. It wasn't until River changed my perspective of the situation that I was able to get out of my own head and see it for what it was. The ability to explore the actual flesh, tendons, scars, etc. was pretty amazing and wonderful in an exploratory way instead of a sexual or seductive experience.

Here is why I would recommend this workshop:  We live in this jaded "don't hurt my feelings" and instant gratification world which desensitizes most interactions. I'm new to this dating world and most interactions with women have been disappointing so far. I've learned that this group is looking for more of an understanding of themselves and what is and isn't alright, and what we are allowed to ask for and that boundaries are ok. We aren't here just to make every other person feel good about themselves. 

I would advise future participants to be open to the concept and hear what others are sharing. Be more than the majority of the population out there since life can be amazing once you aren't expectant and you are willing to share with an open heart.  

Oh, and make sure to at least get one big hug from River.  ;)

As a teacher, River rocks, is sexy, crude in the best way possible, and seems to be very accepting of all walks of life.

~ recently divorced father and financial planner in his 30’s

I took this workshop because I was tired of not knowing what I want, what feels good, particularly sexually.

I definitely was sloppy before this workshop in that I would start to touch a partner for my my own pleasure but then "forget" and make it about him.  Also, I love to have my back and hair touched but when my (new) husband was reluctant I got very angry instead of seeking an agreement. This was a huge issue for us for a long time.

About mid-way into the workshop things changed. I became more comfortable with the other participants and my body "got it" about touching for MY pleasure.

Now that the workshop is over, I feel like I need to process this and incorporate it into my life and relationships!

It is interesting to explore this with a group of people who don't know one another. I am not sure if it would have been better for me to have my partner there for the fine-tuning work of our touching. I think there were other things that were learned however with strangers that would not have been learned if I'd just been there with my partner.

The group dynamic helped in that I really appreciated getting to know the other participants and enjoyed our group laughter and the camaraderie that we generated together.

This course is taught using a combination of theory and then putting it into practical experience. This makes the learning much more solid, as there will be questions that arise in the practices that would not come to light without the experiential aspect.

I had a personal experience of an “aha” moment when, in the very last exercise, I really got it that I enjoyed touching my partner's body for myself!!

One of the big benefits of this workshop is that you are making AGREEMENTS with people that you are touching. And noticing that much of the touching we have experienced, particularly as children, was without such agreement.

Oh! The real life practices helped. There is NO substitute for practical application! I could have gotten the information from reading about it but I would have had to practice it with someone to REALLY get it!

The workshop is challenging to many old ideas. I had to sacrifice "knowing what I'm doing" so that I could learn what I do not know.  Often, I find that even though I think I know a few things about the subject, I have to let that go to really harness the full experience of this "New Angle".

My toughest moments were that I always want to "bolt" the first or second day ... but I was able to remind myself that it is hard to learn new things, and I am always happy that I stay. I have proven this to myself countless times, so it gets easier and easier to relax into the minor discomfort.

I recommend this workshop because I think it is a great opportunity to immerse yourself in a new concept with others who are also new to it. There is nothing like theory and practical application to demonstrate something brand new in such a way as to really cement it into place.

To future participants, I would recommend to put aside all your "ideas of touch" and allow yourself to open up to learn touch from this new vantage point. Then you can incorporate it later and add in what you still feel applies within the new framework!

This workshop helped me personally because I definitely feel I understand my errors in touching within partnership, and I also feel that I am able to explore with my partner a much more honest and heartfelt touch. I have already experimented with asking for what I want and directing his touch for my pleasure.

Also, understanding the shadow side of the wheel showed me where I was not in alignment with agreements and trying to "cheat" or sidestep true agreement. Since I identified primarily with the Giver, I could really see how I lapsed into subtle demanding which might even get me the touch I wanted but it came at the expense of agreement and created a sense of unsafe-ness for my partner who was not in agreement.

River is an enthusiastic and energetic presence in the learning environment. She allows the participants to explore and learn from each other with almost no interference and was ready when we needed support or guidance. This feels very relaxing in that I did not feel I had to perform for her, I only needed to enjoy and trust my process.

River as the seminar leader brings a wealth of knowledge and exuberance which makes the learning very enjoyable!

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to work through long term issues related to my sex life. Lack of confidence, lack of understanding of my own wants and desires, all of that combining into overthinking and performance issues. 

In hindsight, before this workshop I truly had no awareness of touch or consent beyond the most basic definition. Everything was based on inferences, assumptions, and caution to avoid crossing invisible lines. 

Throughout the first full day I experienced multiple milestones and emotional unlocks. The first time I put focus solely into my own sensation. The first time I touched another person with 100% confidence that what I was doing was ok for them. The first time the idea that touching or allowing touch could be a gift. It all led to a completely transformative viewpoint on my own sensations (I can have them!), desires (I can find them!) and experiences (I can enjoy them!). 

Overall, now I feel a sense of optimism about my sensual life that I had assumed for years wouldn't be possible. In the day since the workshop I feel myself torn between joy at these new tools and understandings, and frustration that I can't keep practicing them immediately. I am looking forward to engaging with people physically in a way I haven't in a long, long time. 

The group experience made a profound difference. If instead of fourteen hours with this group I had fourteen hours of 1:1 coaching I wouldn't have made it even halfway as far along. The ability to experience with others made everything real in a way that working with a trained professional wouldn't have. I could trust what I was feeling because I heard from others feeling it too. The experiences, insights and questions they all so bravely offered triggered many learnings that I would not have been able to unlock alone. 

The group dynamic helped the most in the touch experiences. Being able to both give and receive the gift of touch with a variety of people of all genders really showed the power of the Wheel of Consent methodology. It gave a chance to experience with a stranger in a way that demonstrated safety, integrity and joy. 

The class brilliantly blends experiential learning with intellectual descriptions of what happened. The combination of the two means every lesson is both heard and felt to satisfy all types of learners. 

River teaches with a spectacularly open heart. Her willingness to share from her own experience and create space for participants to do the same enabled real evolution. Her mix of experiential guiding, intellectual understanding, and loving acceptance delivered the ideal conditions for learning. 

I had a moment of realization that many other people face the same challenges. Struggling with intimacy and desire presents an incredibly lonely journey so having the experience normalized both at a societal level and by the group felt profound. 

The big benefits of this workshop are to walk away with the vocabulary, tools and optimism to work through further unlocking at whatever pace, and with whomever, that you prefer. 

The practices made it real. To actually experience sensation with another person, in a totally safe environment, for even just a few minutes, proved that change is possible in a way no lecture, reading or video could. 

I would recommend the workshop because it provides a framework that allows engaging sensually with another at the deepest level while still being true to yourself and maintaining your integrity.

Things you did not think would be possible in human relationships will come into view through these three days. 

A challenge for me was that I had to accept how many mental blockers I was carrying. I had to forgive myself for having never truly looked inside myself. I had to forgive myself for wasted decades of pain and instead focus on what the Wheel of Consent could unlock. 

My biggest challenge was touching and being touched by other men. As a straight man I carry many of societies hangups about that. The container of the workshop created a space, and a method, to set those fears aside and connect in a way that allowed me to grow and actually confirm my understanding of my limits in an empowering way. 

To future participants I say: Let yourself have the experience. Don't spend your time thinking about what you are doing, what you may do, or what it means, just let River's voice guide you to unlock the self knowledge you've been missing. 

I don't think I can yet put into words how much this course helped me. The best way I can put things so far is that it gave me hope. It showed me that my life can be different and gave me tools to begin that journey. 

There was so much here I'm still processing it. I feel like depending on the personal situation of someone I was speaking to about the course I would highlight different things. 

I'm not sure where it fits but the whole weekend almost felt like I was in another dimension. During the sessions my sense of time was way off, I felt deeply at peace, and I could happily have kept going for days. 

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to find another tool to add to my toolkit.

Before this workshop began, I used to get fuzzy once I lost sight of my desire.

Now, towards the end of this workshop I feel empowered to speak my desire. I don't need to caretake.

Our group had a sweet energy as we came together in our experiences. For me, it was good to not know anyone initially or have an attraction to anyone in the group regardless of orientation and to work with all genders. I was able to have my journey without the cloudiness I feel from sexual or erotic desire. I love those feelings too. I just think it helped me to not have to deal with those emotions in this instance.

This course is taught with subtlety and nuance which allows you to really search inside yourself for your true desire.  River is an excellent guide for this journey. She remained attuned to the group and followed where the energy of the group led her. This allowed for a custom experience for all.

I had a personal experience of an “aha” moment when I realized how many times I was giving mixed signals with my straight friends. Now I will simply focus on my desire and make a request for my pleasure. If someone has a request for me, then I will go on my journey and find my limits. 

One of the big benefits of this workshop is the Wheel itself. Language to help me explain all of these inner thoughts.

The real-life practices in the workshop helped me to feel the nuance and practice going on my journey.

I believe this course is a prerequisite for life and everyone should have this skill. I don't know if it fits under the umbrella of emotional intelligence or some other intelligence but it should be defined in that way in my opinion.

There were many tears shed in this workshop but it was a good cry. The word catharsis comes to mind.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to get to know more about Wheel of Consent before the Like a Pro workshop, kind of a warmup.

Before this workshop began I would say I was a bit reserved with strangers. About mid-way into the workshop, magic happened.

If anyone wants to seed and grow new neural pathways for healing and success, try this workshop out.

It was an eye opening experience to be part of our group with wide emotional challenges and traumatic experiences. Slowly by the end, with River's ability to hold the safe space, every one ended up opening their tender part to see what they were missing all along.

As a teacher, River was amazing, gifted, experienced, a strong and passionate healer on a mission.  I appreciated the way River was not afraid to directly address our mind tricks and old stories.

I learned life inspiring experiences. And I recognize this is an on going practice. This course strengthened my resolve and I feel empowered to inspire and heal people in need. 

I had a great time all along. To future participants, I would say let things flow and do not overthink the situation. Trust River, she will get you flowing.

I took this workshop because I wanted clarity on how to determine what I desire and how to ask for it, as well as manage my own boundaries and know when I need to say no.  

Before this workshop began I used to let the other party lead and I would follow, keeping a sharp eye out for my boundaries. I was hyper-focused on how far was too far and how far I wouldn't go and when I would need to say "stop." I hadn't considered that it was valid for me to have specific desires and to ask for them to be fulfilled.   

Learning to say, "I want" was challenging. 

Now, a lot of possibility is showing up for how relationships could be. This applies to all areas of my life. I'm looking forward to using these concepts with my friends to create even more satisfying friendships.  

I always seem to learn more in a group setting. It was difficult to connect with some of the other students, but I appreciated hearing the range of experiences they were having, and it was interesting to see how almost all of them had blocks to using the Wheel as it was intended. It was a good mirror to show me where I was blocked and stuck myself.

The group dynamic helps because I like to express myself. Having other people witness my illuminations is very healing to me. Hearing others' perspectives is also valuable, because I can often see others' blind spots and then investigate where I might have a similar blind spot.   

River is a dynamic, compassionate, clear teacher. She will honor me at the same time that she challenges me to choose an upgraded way of interacting with others. She celebrates the smallest of shifts. I respect, admire, and love her style of teaching and her way of being.      

Shifting out of normal and into extraordinary in just one relationship in my life would be worth it, and the fact is that I can try these tools in every relationship of my life, and use them even in short interactions, say with my massage therapist.     

Being able to feel kinesthetically the difference between the 4 modes of touch solidified the teaching.  

Learning to discover and speak my desires, own them, and interact with others' desires is something not taught to me in schools or by my parents. This workshop filled a huge void, and I believe I can upgrade my life with this concept. 

I had to give up on a lot of myths that weren't working for me, like, "If you love me, you'll just magically know what I want." and that talking about consent beforehand couldn't possibly be fun and it will kill the mood. I felt relief, since these beliefs hadn't been working for me anyway. They had simply been prompting me to wonder what was wrong with ME that they weren't working for me. But what if they're lies and illusions and they don't work for anyone....?    

Giving and receiving to people I didn't know or care about was difficult. It felt like a waste of energy, since I didn't see this partnering as turning into anything significant, for the most part. I kept going because I figured it was good to practice with someone where the stakes are low, instead of practicing with someone where it feels the stakes are impossibly high (which means I'm much less likely to express myself authentically and honor my boundaries).  

Getting clear on the difference between the person doing the action and who it's for was illuminating. Practicing using the specific language helped anchor this concept in my body.  

To future participants I say: Listen to your body to hear what it wants. Ask for more than what you think is "acceptable" if that's what truly sounds wonderful to you. Practice speaking your heart's desire. Get in the habit of honoring your desires.  

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to improve communications in my relationship with my partner.

Before this workshop, in my head, I always thought of my touch experiences as me giving good feelings to others. The concept of taking was foreign to me.

Halfway through the course, after being called out for not taking, I was again given the opportunity to take via touch. Once I did it, it was a real breakthrough for me. I learned both that I had taken in the past, I had just labeled it as a gift and that I get pleasure from getting others to examine and move their limits. I do this at work, when I push others to change the way they work and improve their practices. At home I push my partner in little ways, over the years, to expand our sexual activities to new directions. I do this by pushing limits.

For me, that I was able to find out something real that I had not known about myself, what gives me pleasure at home and at work. It was a real AhHa moment for me.

Even though the touch experienced in this case was non-sexual, just the action of touching an arm of strangers was uncomfortable at first. The first person I was paired with shed tears and we were just touching hands and wrists. Then later in class, being asked to “take” touch for my own pleasure with these people who in any other circumstances I would want to give comfort or pleasure. Change is never easy and sometimes you have to be uncomfortable in order to get to the other side.

River is a great teacher. The smile lowers your inhibition’s, her energy overcame the tendency to withdraw in the uncomfortableness of the group environment. She was always present during the exercise and observed when you were “cheating” or not doing the exercise correctly. River was really well prepared and organized. No time was wasted in our 14 hrs of class. The real clue that the class dynamic was working was that during our lunch break, everyone decided to stay together and eat at the same table.

My aha was that I get pleasure from taking. It's not that I have not been a taker all my life, it is just that I misidentified my taking as serving and that robbed me of pleasure.

The real life practices were key. I don’t think that watching the videos would get you into the mental space needed to really “get” what these new concepts really mean. Sometimes I think you have to be uncomfortable for a moment, in order for your mind to reorder its synapses and cause real meaningful change.

I have already recommended this workshop to my young chiropractor. As sort of a mentor to him, I told him that these kinds of lessons of the heart should be learned early or else life goes by and you regret time wasted.

The toughest moment for me it was that brief moment just before I sat down with a new practice partner.

To future participants I say: relax, any dread you may be feeling will dissipate quickly once the practices begin.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to test myself to see how I would react in a semi-sexual situation with an unknown group.

Before the workshop, my condition has been described as Touch Negative and Sexless. My approach to touch and choice has been limited to a formal dance floor where I ask a partner to dance. Or a career situation, where the touching is professional, handshakes and hugs only if the other person asks first.

About mid-way into the workshop, I gave up trying to fit in and started looking after myself more. What was useful was to see the perspectives of the participants start to change. Even those who had the workshop before or who knew the Wheel were there to try to break a restriction or a limit in their lives.

The group dynamic helped because in human beings we do have a desire for touch, pleasure, company, praise, gratitude, feeling successful, and just feeling good. All of these are difficult to do when we are alone. And when working in the groups, each can assist the other at some level, whether it is simply comfort or listening or giving attention.

Mostly the teaching method was like circuit assembly or building a model, where each component is built, and then the next piece added. In this case, the next verbal cue, consent, limits, and focus on self.

The most telling moment was when I was trying to say "I want" and I could not. I am quite good with words, and can write and talk for a mile, but saying "I want" was very difficult.

A big benefit of the workshop is setting up a group of people willing to talk and try the Wheel. The value I found in the workshop is that everyone came with the intention of learning something about setting boundaries and ending stereotypes.

This course personally helped me on several things. First, it was a test to see how I could react in such a situation. I did this workshop without research, and without heavy preparation. Trust. Trust. Trust it will be fine. Second, this was a strange situation that was going to include touch. Talking is easy. Working is easy. Touching is very hard.

At the end of this workshop I feel successful.

Maybe I am not as untouchable as I sometimes feel.

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to heal from sexual trauma and find a way to have a better relationship with sex.

Before this workshop, I used to assume what the other person needs and give that to them in hopes of having needs my met.

About midway into the workshop I was feeling so happy that I was getting my touch needs met that all my fear of being unsafe in the world fell away.

Now I feel Empowered!

It’s incredible to get in touch with what makes me happy.  I am honoring that my body desperately needed a break from sex after all the trauma I put myself through for the past couple decades.  I finally realized I don’t really need a man as much as I thought I did—I would like to spend time getting to know myself more and discover what brings me pleasure.

By the end of the workshop I met a typical guy I usually fall for who would have been completely toxic for me, but I peacefully walked away from him and said yes to myself instead.  I was calling myself a love addict at the beginning of the workshop, and then that little miracle happened, so that was pretty huge for me.

The group dynamic helped me understand the content more and I felt so close to everyone especially after doing something so personal with almost everyone—touching and being touched.

This is a course about how to ask to get your needs met and how to get clear about the needs and intentions of people around you.  It’s for singles, couples, people enduring trauma, people who don’t know what they want, or who do but don’t know how to ask for it, it’s for everyone who wants to enjoy life more.  

The big benefits of this workshop are connectedness to others, increased feelings of pleasure, getting in touch with your pleasure, knowing and setting boundaries, knowing yourself more, improved success in all areas of life, self esteem boosting, increased desire, self acceptance and more.

The real life practices helped me know what I want, know how to ask for what I want, and to practice discernment and open heartedness with others.

River is compassionate, passionate and loving in her teaching.  She takes the time to coach everyone in the room with sensitivity towards everyone’s individual path.

I would recommend this class because everyone’s happiness matters.

I had to, and still am, working toward asking a man for how I want to be touched. It’s still hard but I will continue to work at it.

The most difficult part for me was not wanting to be open with the group after a stranger really hurt my feelings the day before.  I think my desire for connection overrode my feelings of hurt.

To future participants, I would say have an open mind to what is being offered and listen to what you want.  Also advocate for your comfort and needs—maybe it will get you in the mood to do that even after the workshop is over.

This course helped me find that hidden child just bursting with so much sunshine who wants nothing more than to share laughter and fun with the world, and that’s who I become when my needs are being met.  Amazing!

I hope to take this class again with River.

Everyone can benefit from understanding the Wheel of Consent and what dynamics are involved in all relationships.

It is empowering and life changing. 

I find that learning the Wheel of Consent is a beneficial tool to have in your pocket for any and every social interaction. By having an understanding of your intention, your dynamic, " who the gift is for", can change how you approach any discussion. It can help to navigate a discussion or sexual interaction towards clarity.

I took this workshop because I wanted to dive deeper into the Wheel of Consent and gain experience and tools to use. Now that I’ve taken the workshop, I feel like I have tools and a script in order to approach using touch in every day life and in my own teaching.  

Having the time to dedicate and dive deeper into each quadrant and practice what they mean is beneficial and totally worth it. 

This course is taught through a series of exercises or practices of concepts. As you repeat a practice you gain a deeper understanding of the implications of the exercise. And by last day you literally see how the pieces fit together when the diagram of the Wheel is presented to you.  Having the opportunity to use the tools is always helpful vs just listening to a lecture.  

It's always nice to explore topics in a group setting as others contribute their understandings and their experiences to create a more complete picture of how the Wheel works or how it can be used.  

My aha moment came several days after the workshop when I realized that I grew up in a household where boundaries were not respected and how it had impacted other areas of my life. As opposed to feeling like "i was broken,”, i realized it was a learned thing and also a skill that I could learn and therefore change upcoming behavior and situations. I had chosen to no longer be a victim of my circumstances but was missing pieces of my understanding as to how and why I was contributing to that behavior repeatedly. 

The toughest moment for me was realizing that I have been an active participant in my life - in the good stuff that has happened and the not so great stuff! And now - I have some tools to use to be able to be more empowered in all my interactions.  

The course gave me the time to explore the information in each of the quadrants, a chance to explore how the language and the actions relate and how they impact my interactions in every day life. 

To future participants I would say: Just do it! It is so worth it!  

~ famous dance instructor and explorer

The primary reason I took the workshop was to improve sex, and the communication around sex, with my wife. After 20 years, things between us had become, as I like to euphemize, well-practiced. 

Paradoxically, for all of our mutual experience, there was a real lack of communication, a lot of uncertainty, and too much built-up resentment in our sex life. I often wondered who I was touching her for. My wife would sometimes intuit that a certain act was for my benefit, even as I pretended it was for her. So intriguing, but also dangerous!

I wanted to understand more about who I was touching for in a given moment, and gain a better vocabulary for navigating sex and desire with my wife.

I think my confusion surrounding touch began early, like so many, as I fumbled through teenage sexual experience. I learned patterns of behavior, and modeled a staunch lack of communication, which became a sort of cycle.

That lack of communication around sex begat tentativeness, which in turn fostered deep uncertainty. Being uncertain offered me a fork in the road — quietly explore and hope for the best outcome (so many times not even knowing my own definition of a good outcome!), or go out on a limb and develop a language and courage surrounding desire. It seemed easier to make the silent, passive choice!

Taking pleasure though my hands was, ultimately, a big eye opener.

What I have loved most dearly about this work is how slowly it started, almost imperceptible. Delightful no doubt, the touching. But the ramifications of those not-quite-aha moments feel to me now like hurricane lashings brought on by the delicate flutter of a butterfly’s wings. 

Being in the group was helpful to me. We all had different perspectives on the workshop content, but River ensured everyone was heard, and integrated our varied perspectives into the lessons. For me, it was important to begin this type of work in a group setting — I felt supported in my journey. Learning new things in a room surrounded by like-minded people who understood each other.

Afterward, I was able to apply the Wheel practices alone and with my wife. But the group offered such unique support and belonging, which was wonderful.

With regard to River as a teacher, I started with “patient and kind.” Which River certainly is. And then I looked up 1 Corinthians 13:4 because I felt like I was starting wedding vows and, wow, is that passage apropos! River is love!

Seriously — so. much. patience. Holding space for every person in the group. A profound sense of inclusion. Nurturing in the sense of encouraging — and deeply caring about — the growth of others. 

River is also a superlative facilitator. I remember calling River “a born leader” as we gave our exit interviews in-group. And then I felt terrible having used that language because I sense her leadership skills are borne from incredible sacrifice, hard work, tenacity, and attention. A life’s work that isn’t easily encapsulated, or was ever something that “just happened.”

For me the “aha” moment was when I [finally] realized River was going to go from the practice to the theory. It took forever to get to the actual wheel diagram! Aha!

I’d already read a lot about the wheel and dug into Betty Martin’s site before I attended the workshop. I loved the way River led us through the material — first experiencing the different quadrants of the wheel, and what each one awakened in our bodies. Only then did we consume the Wheel theory with our minds. Aha! Perfect! 

To River: thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you!

~ a professional designer and father of young children in his late 30’s

I primarily took this workshop to help me understand healthy boundaries better, especially my boundaries.

Before the workshop, touch was something I felt I needed and had no choice in needing more, nor in what kind of touch I could both give and receive.

Mid-way through the workshop, I tapped into a part of myself that desired specific touch, in specific ways, and for the first time, I began to feel like I had permission to choose.

In addition, I began to feel safer when touching others. I felt that I could trust them and their directions to guide me to the right touch far more than I have ever trusted people who let me touch them before.

Since the workshop has ended, I have been terrifyingly empowered to discover my true pleasure and desires outside of what I learned from others. I attribute this to the encouragement and celebration of taking my own pleasure.

I also find myself deepening my trust and therefore intimacy with my partner, opening myself up to an inner vulnerability that I did not know existed. The trust came when I practiced setting boundaries as totally free, sacred desires that I now had the right to express no matter the situation or the circumstance.

The group meshed very well to me. We all were committed to the workshop and we all cooperated together to give each other and ourselves the richest experience. Whether I was with a man or a woman, it didn’t matter. We were comrades, taking this journey together.

As a whole, I would say our unity allowed us to raise each other and dive deeper together than we ever would have alone or if there was discord in our group. People felt safe to, and did, share deep personal feelings, cry, laugh together, and generally enjoy the process in an uninhibited way. That’s why we had such an amazing experience.

In the course, we were taught through simple guided exercises in a small enough group that our instructor could tailor the lesson plan and pace to our individual needs as much as to the group's. There was some discussion and lecture but it was always very interactive and free form; allowing us to joke, laugh, and ask questions throughout the spoken part of the course.

The real life practices were the experiential journeys that brought me into my body, into my heart, and into myself. They were the “keys” to the workshop that allowed me to not just think about what we were learning but to both feel them in my body and also feel what comes up for me or how I react when I put these ideas into practice.

River exuded a gentleness confidence, and passion for the material that drew all of us students in from the moment we started the class. During the class, she engaged with each of us individually and tailored the pace of the class to suit what we were ready for in each moment. My favorite part was how she kept the tone light and informal so that the class was as much about having fun with these practices, as it was about learning them. At the end, she felt like a friend as much as a teacher.

I would say that the big benefits for me were two-fold.

1) Receiving permission and encouragement to pursue my own personal pleasure and by extension, to my true desires. Especially important as a part of that is being guided to how to feel those genuine desires in the first place.

2) Experiencing what truly clear boundaries and consensual interactions between people are really like, including how to create those for myself and practice them in my own life. Feeling my right to hold my boundaries wherever “I” needed to in the moment was another revelation for me.

The workshop completely challenged my old ideas of what pleasure was, what I wanted in the moment, and more. In order to keep moving forward in in the workshop I had to move through fear of what I held inside and the utter belief in my own failure should my insides not measure up. Getting through and touching my forgotten truth and bodily feelings was raw, painful, and intense; but I cannot describe the relief I felt at finally being able to “listen” to my self/my body again.

Part way through the second day, during an exercise to “take” my pleasure from an object, I touched a hidden part of me deep inside where my true capacity to experience genuine pleasure was hidden. I then felt how different what I thought I had wanted based on porn, movies, and other societal messages was from what I truly desired inside. It was an incredibly raw, painful, and enlightening experience which, alone, would have made the whole workshop worth it.

My toughest moment was on Saturday when, during an exercise, I felt what I just described above. I did not want to touch these hidden inner parts of myself, much less do it in a circle with a bunch of strangers whom I had met the day before. I kept going though and went through the monumental task of accepting my feelings and then letting them out and sobbing in the classroom for a while. I refused to let go, just as I refused to give up on myself.

This course helped me in so many ways, but personally, I think the biggest was the permission to really value myself. This valuing showed up in the form of discovering and owning what “I” genuinely desired regardless of outside influences, as well as knowing that I had the right and the strength to defend my true boundaries, no matter how much that may bother others.

I recommend this workshop to anyone who is interested in being more deeply connected to their bodies and in having clearer understandings of boundaries. I recommend it because it takes us into a deeper layer of “listening” to our bodies and to others, thusly to the often forgotten parts of ourselves and of our relationships.

To you who will be attending in the future, I only ask that you come into this with respect for something that has more to offer which, despite how simple it may sound, you do not understand yet. Also, the more you commit, the more you will get out of it.

~ man in his 30’s who has a partner who knows the Wheel

I took this workshop to access more pleasure in my body, learn how to give and receive care with more awareness, and help others do the same.

Before this workshop began, I approached touch and choice without the distinction of 'who is this for?' About mid-way into the workshop, I experienced more pleasure in my hands and body! More a-ha's around the difference between giving/receiving, doing/done to.

Now that the workshop is over, I feel empowered. Embodied. Inspired.

The teaching methodology of this workshop is part didactic, part experiential. It is a workshop to empower reconnecting with the pleasure in your body, attention and attunement to others, and negotiating skills in giving and receiving care.

The real life practices in the workshop helped make the lessons real and more embodied.

The group dynamic in this workshop helped. The intimacy and vulnerability of sharing with individuals put pressure on my actual (not just imagined) barriers and deficits when it comes to giving and receiving care. 

I had a personal “aha” moment realizing that I tend to focus on giving pleasure to others, and feel shy when it comes to asking for what brings me pleasure.

My toughest moment in the workshop was probably 'taking' pleasure for myself from a partner that I did not know - it felt very intimate and I felt shy about exploring those boundaries fully.

I realized that I find it difficult to 'impose' what I desire on others unless it's pleasurable for them. 

The big benefits of this workshop are getting clarity around knowing what I desire from feeling it in my body, and how to navigate boundaries and situations where the heat gets turned up in intimacy.

I recommend this workshop to others because having an understanding of who the giving/receiving of care is for changes the way I relate with people and can help heal a world full of people feeling abusive and abused. Also recognizing we need to take responsibility to discover through our bodies what we desire and what our boundaries truly are is important. 

To future participants, I would say: Be willing to touch and be touched, be willing to turn your awareness into your senses and your inner world. Be prepared to ask for what you truly desire.

This workshop helped me personally because I feel more confident to ask for what I want, not take it personally if someone can't/doesn't want to give that, and also set my own limits around giving and receiving.

River is a great teacher in her ability to be relaxed and present, playful and sincere, guiding yet allowing, and helping people touch into uncomfortable places with support and grace.

I hope that this can be taught to everyone!

~ a psychotherapist in his 30’s who focuses on sex and relationship issues

My primary reason for taking this workshop was my divorce and how meaningless my marriage had became. The lack of love, passion, sex, touch, etc. turned me into such an introvert which is unlike my old self.  I missed the person I used to be and wanted to see if something was really wrong with me.

Before this workshop began, I thought I was passionate and seductive.  However, I never really knew whether it was for me or my ex-wife. We didn't communicate so everything was left to what was going through our minds.  Not smart.

At first, I thought I was broken with all these other people in the workshop describing their experiences as seductive and sensual and whatever.  I was like "what the hell are you guys smoking because I need some." Then when I went home and reflected on what I heard, I tried again. This time I slowed down and listened to my body and was so excited that I sent River a message that night.

About mid-way into the workshop, I realized that it was good to want, and great to give pleasure exactly the way someone asked. I didn't have to feel inadequate.  It was exhilarating and although I was only rubbing a woman's hand and arm up to her elbow it was better than sex I've had.  So just imagine what I can do when I do have sex.  Delish! ;)

Towards the end of this workshop, I feel pretty awesome and I want to continue growing my relationships with some of the members.  It’s great that I've seen some at other meetups.

The small group was ideal because we were all heard and were more open with each other. I wouldn't have liked the course as much if there were more than a dozen people.

This workshop will start off mildly so you don't freak out, especially for those that have issues with being touched, and will progress.  You can also opt out if you just want to watch or don't feel into the exercise although I never opted out. :) By the end of the course I was sad that we would be parting ways.

I had a huge aha moment the first time I was receiving the gift exactly the way I asked without giving anything back.  It was AMAZING!

The real life practices made us stick to boundaries and created a very safe and open environment so nobody felt like we were expected to go beyond what was given as a guideline.

The workshop helped me personally because I felt pretty shy at first and now I feel more empowered especially when it comes to others that feel the same way. I'm not in a relationship so I haven't been able to share with a partner yet.  However, the class has given me a better understanding of how to ask for things that I want, and more appropriate phrasing.

The toughest moment for me was when I was approached by a male to be his partner since I was in a playful mood and would have rather given/taken with a female partner. It wasn't until River changed my perspective of the situation that I was able to get out of my own head and see it for what it was. The ability to explore the actual flesh, tendons, scars, etc. was pretty amazing and wonderful in an exploratory way instead of a sexual or seductive experience.

Here is why I would recommend this workshop:  We live in this jaded "don't hurt my feelings" and instant gratification world which desensitizes most interactions. I'm new to this dating world and most interactions with women have been disappointing so far. I've learned that this group is looking for more of an understanding of themselves and what is and isn't alright, and what we are allowed to ask for and that boundaries are ok. We aren't here just to make every other person feel good about themselves. 

I would advise future participants to be open to the concept and hear what others are sharing. Be more than the majority of the population out there since life can be amazing once you aren't expectant and you are willing to share with an open heart.  

Oh, and make sure to at least get one big hug from River.  ;)

As a teacher, River rocks, is sexy, crude in the best way possible, and seems to be very accepting of all walks of life.

~ recently divorced father and financial planner in his 30’s

I took this workshop because I was tired of not knowing what I want, what feels good, particularly sexually.

I definitely was sloppy before this workshop in that I would start to touch a partner for my my own pleasure but then "forget" and make it about him.  Also, I love to have my back and hair touched but when my (new) husband was reluctant I got very angry instead of seeking an agreement. This was a huge issue for us for a long time.

About mid-way into the workshop things changed. I became more comfortable with the other participants and my body "got it" about touching for MY pleasure.

Now that the workshop is over, I feel like I need to process this and incorporate it into my life and relationships!

It is interesting to explore this with a group of people who don't know one another. I am not sure if it would have been better for me to have my partner there for the fine-tuning work of our touching. I think there were other things that were learned however with strangers that would not have been learned if I'd just been there with my partner.

The group dynamic helped in that I really appreciated getting to know the other participants and enjoyed our group laughter and the camaraderie that we generated together.

This course is taught using a combination of theory and then putting it into practical experience. This makes the learning much more solid, as there will be questions that arise in the practices that would not come to light without the experiential aspect.

I had a personal experience of an “aha” moment when, in the very last exercise, I really got it that I enjoyed touching my partner's body for myself!!

One of the big benefits of this workshop is that you are making AGREEMENTS with people that you are touching. And noticing that much of the touching we have experienced, particularly as children, was without such agreement.

Oh! The real life practices helped. There is NO substitute for practical application! I could have gotten the information from reading about it but I would have had to practice it with someone to REALLY get it!

The workshop is challenging to many old ideas. I had to sacrifice "knowing what I'm doing" so that I could learn what I do not know.  Often, I find that even though I think I know a few things about the subject, I have to let that go to really harness the full experience of this "New Angle".

My toughest moments were that I always want to "bolt" the first or second day ... but I was able to remind myself that it is hard to learn new things, and I am always happy that I stay. I have proven this to myself countless times, so it gets easier and easier to relax into the minor discomfort.

I recommend this workshop because I think it is a great opportunity to immerse yourself in a new concept with others who are also new to it. There is nothing like theory and practical application to demonstrate something brand new in such a way as to really cement it into place.

To future participants, I would recommend to put aside all your "ideas of touch" and allow yourself to open up to learn touch from this new vantage point. Then you can incorporate it later and add in what you still feel applies within the new framework!

This workshop helped me personally because I definitely feel I understand my errors in touching within partnership, and I also feel that I am able to explore with my partner a much more honest and heartfelt touch. I have already experimented with asking for what I want and directing his touch for my pleasure.

Also, understanding the shadow side of the wheel showed me where I was not in alignment with agreements and trying to "cheat" or sidestep true agreement. Since I identified primarily with the Giver, I could really see how I lapsed into subtle demanding which might even get me the touch I wanted but it came at the expense of agreement and created a sense of unsafe-ness for my partner who was not in agreement.

River is an enthusiastic and energetic presence in the learning environment. She allows the participants to explore and learn from each other with almost no interference and was ready when we needed support or guidance. This feels very relaxing in that I did not feel I had to perform for her, I only needed to enjoy and trust my process.

River as the seminar leader brings a wealth of knowledge and exuberance which makes the learning very enjoyable!

~ a healer and light worker in her glorious Queen phase

My primary reason for taking this workshop was to learn the wheel of consent, so that I can make sure I can practice it when working with clients.

This course is taught through experience.  Every class started with solo or partner touching exercises.  After the experience, River taught about where the exercise(s) we did fell on the wheel.

I would say the big benefits of this workshop are learning that an important part of consent is being clear on who the activity is for, practicing naming physical sensations in the body, and learning the difference between what I want and what I am willing to do.

I had watched videos on the wheel of consent before and didn't fully understand it.

Getting to experience practicing the wheel not only helped me to understand the wheel, but enabled me to recognize what being in each quadrant on the wheel feels like in my body. This has helped me be able to easily pinpoint which quadrant I am in in situations in real life.

Even though the course was primarily about touch, I've been able to apply what I have learned to every aspect of my life.  I've started to practice getting clear on my intentions and communicating them, even if it’s just as simple as my intention for wanting to be friends with someone or inviting a friend to coffee.  When I know the intention for the interaction, then i can know if I am actually a yes or not.

~ an energy healer in her 20s

I took this workshop because I was seeking a practical tool that could help me better understand myself and the dynamics in my relationships.

There had been so much confusion around giving and receiving and who is doing what for who that it was painful.  

Also as a sex therapist I wanted more practical and experiential tools that I could use to help my clients more effectively and in a way that is more practical and productive than just talking about problems.

 I have found The Wheel to be one of the most practical and helpful tools for both personal and professional use!

Before this workshop I was totally unaware of the quadrants of giving and receiving.  I now realize where my last relationship went so wrong and how much of that was due to us being totally unconscious about consent (or lack thereof).  This lead to a lot of pain and suffering that could have been avoided had we had this tool!

I also have had a big aha moment about my relationship dynamic with my ex husband.  For years, I have felt manipulated, abused and perpetrated by him while never actually realizing that I was actually at fault too for acting from the shadow side of allowing by not having any limits or demanding that those boundaries and limits be honored.  As a result, I have allowed him to just take and take while being too afraid or lazy to stand up for myself and create a different dynamic.

After learning the wheel I have been able to recognize when I am allowing someone to overstep my boundary or dishonor my limit and I have been able to stand up for myself in a very empowered way.

This is so exciting to feel!

What I love about this course is that it is mostly experiential.  Learning the concept of the wheel is fascinating but the rubber only meets the road when you actually get to experience what it feels like for you to be in each of the quadrants.

This is one of the most direct and practical tools for self knowledge and personal growth and healing that I have ever encountered.

It is simple yet absolutely profound.  I am so excited to keep exploring the depths of wisdom and insight available to me through the application of this wisdom in my life.

In truth, everything in my life now looks different as I begin to see things through this wheel.  It is slowly changing the way I communicate, how I ask for or request things of others, and I haven’t even applied it yet to sex - oh the wonders!  LOL

Being in a group dynamic to learn this work is really a gift.  So many people are shy to be in groups or afraid to be seen.  The group space that River created was very safe and respectful.  We always were given the choice to share or not to share, to participate or not and in being given this choice we were learning how to tap into, honor, and listen to our own desire.  

River modeled the concepts of the wheel effortlessly through her teaching style.

From this workshop I have learned to say no, ask for what I want more clearly, and to respect myself much more compassionately and passionately.

If you get a chance to take this workshop with River do it!

It is totally worth the investment of time and money.

River is a fun, engaging and playful teacher.  She creates a very safe and sacred space for her students to learn and grow while exploring sides of themselves that may otherwise be challenging to discover on their own.  River is also very respectful and encouraging of each person’s individual growth process which makes the class also feel very personal even though we are in a group setting.

~ a mother and sex therapist in her 40s

My main reason for taking the workshop was curiosity and the knowledge that I need support setting boundaries.

Before this workshop, I used to approach touch and choice in a passive and habitual way.

About midway into the workshop, I experienced a paradigm shift, especially in the context of taking and touching for my own pleasure.

Toward the end of the workshop, I feel empowered to say yes and no with confidence.

Hearing other people’s journeys in our group provided a sense of community and understanding of myself. 

Practicing with others provided an experiential opportunity to explore.  The workshop is taught with hands on, group discussion, some lecture and lots of reflection.  The real life practices helped to solidify abstract ideas into concrete awareness.

I had many experiences of aha moments. Touching another person as a taker was huge for me.  The big benefits of this workshop are looking at everyday interactions from a whole new perspective.  The workshop was liberating, and a healthy container to explore.  I would advise future participants to be open hearted.

The toughest moment for me was asking for what I want.  I don’t think I did.  It is an area of growth for me.


I would recommend this workshop because it is invaluable information that applies to multiple areas of life.

As a teacher, River is intuitive, knowledgable and makes sure that participants are practicing and understanding the true heart of the content.

This course was a game changer for me.  It opened a door to personal and interpersonal dynamics that I have always been vague and powerless around.  Through the workshop I found language to speak my truth, ask for what I want.  And in turn, hold space for my partners truth, listening and honoring what they desire and where their boundaries lie.

 Those who uphold the integrity and values of the Wheel of Consent will create a win-win world for all people!

I want you to know how much value you brought me AND my relationship in 5 weeks. I can't even remember if I experienced any skepticism at the possibility of 5 weeks' efficacy, because if I ever did I have since forgotten and it has been replaced entirely by our time together and all that I have begun to stretch and feel into in my own experience. 

Like a cat sitting on a lap, purring and being pet in a warm sun beam, taking a stretch here and there– that's what I would equate to my felt sense of our 5 weeks. 

Our work, centered around Betty Martin's concept she calls The Wheel of Consent, was perfectly "unsexy" in that it wasn't mysterious, required no pretending or role play on its surface, and instead required total clarity of what you want and what the intentions behind any interaction are. And in that, it has helped to reframe what I believe is sexy. 

The work we did together was so much more than sexual awakening, or sexual re-awakening.  On the sexual front, we worked to deconstruct the elements keeping me from pleasure seeking, and that has been incredibly liberating. 

The most value I feel like I derived from the 5 weeks is how much the work helped me call up more of my own awareness and find more language for what I find, validating my desires and my aversions and giving me language to discuss both more openly, challenging my subconscious need to do the emotional labor for my partner before I've even uttered words about my own desire. It has challenged both of us to take ownership of our own "sexual readiness," taking the burden off my partner to know how to approach me when he has desire on his heart.  I got to see my partner interact in this new world and observe him through this new lens of my own awareness. You call it being in my own power. Like I said, it mostly feels like just being fully awake -- taking all of that energy I was subconsciously putting towards making sure everything is okay all of the time and instead turning it inward to know and be aware of how I feel about something at any given time, especially when it's telling me something is not okay. 

Thanks again, SO MUCH, River. To know you, to know you are working to bring these kinds of revelations to people like me in our community is so inspiring and I hope for and look forward to any ways I can help to get the word out about your important work.

I am a skeptic. I am also fairly self-aware. I have worked with really good therapists in the past (and the present) who have helped me in many ways. I didn’t believe in “light bulb” moments; I thought that only happened in books and movies.

I went into this Conscious Uncoupling program simply thinking I would at least learn something new about myself. I had only had a few relationships, and they all ended in the same drawn-out, exhausting, heartbroken way. I wanted to break the pattern, so I gave this a chance.

Through this program and the tender yet firm guidance of River, I have changed my life.

Let me say that again - I have changed my life.

It’s no joke, and I’m not exaggerating. Go through this program with an open mind, and change your own life. I can’t explain exactly why this program is different, but it is, and it is worth it.”        ~ Raina Harris

I feel like I’ve learned so much from you in such a short amount of time. I have felt such an awakening since our last session. It’s like finally remembering something that had just been on the tip of my tongue for a long time. Having this language of giving, receiving, servicing, and accepting service made such a difference in how I approach my husband. I’m regaining a lot of confidence. Really looking forward to our next appointment.

This program is much more than sexual. It's about how you connect with others and yourself.

River's program is much more than a sexually-related subject. There's even more to it than how humans relate with one another. It's about how you connect with yourself.  I truly believe the lessons should be mandatory when sexual anatomy and education is introduced in high school.

It's knowledge changes your life as every change should be, inside out. I'm forever grateful for it!

I just wanted to express my appreciation for your help this weekend. Your warmth and enthusiasm put me at ease and made it comfortable for me to open up. Again, thank you very much and I look forward to seeing you soon.